For by means of a harlot
A man is reduced to a crust of bread;
And an adulteress will prey upon his precious life.
-Proverbs 6:26, NKJV
A cheater is not qualified to rate your value.
A cheater apologist is not qualified to rate your value.
Such evaluations are worthless.
A cheater has just run the Corvette over the edge and set the wreck on fire. Of course, he will say that Corvette is worthless. He does not want to deal with its real value.
Would you trust a crook who was caught destroying your precious property to give you a fair evaluation in court? Of course, not!
It is in the crook’s interest to devalue what he has destroyed. Likewise, it is in the interest of the cheater to devalue you. He or she is either trying to make the point that you aren’t all that valuable on the way to the discard. Or the cheater is devaluing to make it sting less when you divorce him or her.
You are gold!
Never forget that. And never forget that a cheater along with his/her apologists are in no position to give you a fair assessment. Do not base your value on their negatively-biased perspective.