And again in the passage above he says, “They shall never enter my rest.” -Hebrews 4:5, NIV Some of the most miserable people are cheaters who are caught between their sinful passions and what they know is right. They lash out at the faithful spouse hoping to offload the discomfort of fighting this onerous battle. … Continue reading “No rest for them”
So many bad decisions!
For this command is a lamp, this teaching is a light, and correction and instruction are the way to life, keeping you from your neighbor’s wife, from the smooth talk of a wayward woman. -Proverbs 6:23-24, NIV So many bad decisions! The act of infidelity is often underplayed by cheaters and cheater apologists. They treat … Continue reading “So many bad decisions!”
She would never… but she did.
She would never… but she did. No one enjoys learning that they were wrong about someone in a horrible way. The sick feeling of learning that you’ve been played is not one I enjoy, at least. So many of us, faithful spouses, are all too familiar with that feeling, though. We were SO trusting. The … Continue reading “She would never… but she did.”
Not Judge-y Enough!
What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? -I Corinthians 5:12, NIV An excuse made for passivity in the face of an unrepentant cheater in church is how someone does not want to look “judge-y.” This is such shame-based thinking. As such, this leads to … Continue reading “Not Judge-y Enough!”
Critical Error: Bethel and Danny Silk
Suspended Bethel leader, Ben Armstrong, was the mentor and spiritual father to Sarah who lived with him and his family for a period of time. He touched her in inappropriate ways and without her consent (allegedly). When Sarah uncovered this inappropriate relationship to the leadership at Bethel, they treated her as an affair partner. Then … Continue reading “Critical Error: Bethel and Danny Silk”
Vicious Cheater Rage
You would think a cheater would be the happy one as they are selfishly indulging in illicit sex. Yet they seem to be the most onerous person in the world in interactions with their faithful partner. It is like the faithful partner offended them profoundly as opposed to the opposite as is true. I am … Continue reading “Vicious Cheater Rage”
Accepting their decision
“O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the city that kills the prophets and stones God’s messengers! How often I have wanted to gather your children together as a hen protects her chicks beneath her wings, but you wouldn’t let me.” -Matthew 23:37, NLT Jesus wanted to see the Jewish people turn to him. We see this in this … Continue reading “Accepting their decision”
Crushed versus Crusher
20 A bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick he will not snuff out, till he has brought justice through to victory. 21 In his name the nations will put their hope.” -Matthew 12:20-21, NIV Crushed versus Crusher A pastoral error frequently made when handling infidelity cases is treating both parties the same way. … Continue reading “Crushed versus Crusher”
Always Owing You
“I’d forgive her even if she cheated on me,” says Faithful Husband. “You’d just hold that over her head forever,” says Cheater Apologist. Some disordered people only view relationships through the lens of power and leverage. Such response tells you everything you need to know about their “kingdom” alliance. They could care less about godliness … Continue reading “Always Owing You”
Gotta Rid of THOSE Voices!
Recently, I ran across this Gospel new release. It has good lyrics warning us about influences that might outwardly look good but are bad for us. The whole song struck me as especially applicable for faithful spouses dealing with religious cheaters or cheater supporters. Plus, it speaks to the spiritual abusive programming going on between … Continue reading “Gotta Rid of THOSE Voices!”