Here is the deceptive way of the adulterous woman: she takes what she wants and then says, “I’ve done nothing wrong.” -Proverbs 30:20, TPT While I believe we can all learn from our mistakes and sins in a relationship, I caution against the counsel to own our marriage sins with a cheater in active infidelity. … Continue reading “Don’t feed their contempt”
Wicked Prospering
In this life, good people are often treated as though they were wicked, and wicked people are often treated as though they were good. This is so meaningless! -Ecclesiastes 8:14b, NLT These words seem like they were written today and not as they were–i.e. thousands of years earlier! I bet many here can relate to … Continue reading “Wicked Prospering”
Dangerous Partial Truths
One day he [the serpent] asked the woman, “Did God really say you must not eat the fruit from any of the trees in the garden?” Genesis 3:1b, NLT Partial truth lies are the most dangerous. We see the example of this here in the story of how humans sinned and fell from grace. The … Continue reading “Dangerous Partial Truths”
Crying for deliverance
But I am poor and needy; Make haste to me, O God! You are my help and my deliverer; O Lord, do not delay. -Psalm 70:5, NKJV You take a real pounding when you are the faithful spouse. That pounding of losses feels relentless in the beginning of the discoveries. A major part of why we often stay stuck wanting … Continue reading “Crying for deliverance”
Love and Parrots
When I was going through the tough anniversary yesterday, I was comforted by thinking about all I have gained post-divorce. In particular, I remembered that I would not have become a parrot owner without my divorce. That means I never would have met my special buddy nor all our other flock members if I had … Continue reading “Love and Parrots”
Would have been 20th
Today would have been our 20th wedding anniversary. This one hits differently. I feel the grief on this day more so than I have with such anniversaries in the more recent years. It probably has to do with it being such a milestone and what that means to my heart as to what was lost. … Continue reading “Would have been 20th”
So seared off!
Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron…. -I Timothy 4:2, KJV While this verse is really about false teachers leading people astray, I think it applies to cheaters as well. This verse reminds us that not everyone is bothered by morally corrupt behavior. What might trouble our conscience greatly does … Continue reading “So seared off!”
Tune in Holy Spirit
15 Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food. 16 If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it? -James 2:14-16, NIV Plenty of Christian leaders will tell you that they love you and are praying … Continue reading “Tune in Holy Spirit”
An inside job
“I’m so unhappy,” cries Cheater. You do not control how someone thinks or thereby feels. When Cheaters whine about not feeling happy, you can be sure that they are blaming their spouse. The affair is treated as an entitlement because they believe (falsely) they are entitled to whatever makes them “happy.” Happiness is an inside … Continue reading “An inside job”
Awful religious cheaters!
“If someone says, ‘I love God,’ but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see?” -I John 4:20, NLT Religious cheaters are the worst. It is bad enough dealing with a cheater. A religious cheater committed … Continue reading “Awful religious cheaters!”