Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues. -Proverbs 17:28 More Christians could learn from that fool from Proverbs 17:28 who held his tongue when it comes to marriages ravaged by adultery. Sadly, the advice (and condemnation) come all too freely for faithful spouses. Here a few … Continue reading “Stupid Stuff “Christians” Say to Faithful Spouses”
Passionate Protector
God is a just judge, And God is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, NKJV Injustice and exploitation touches a deep place of anger inside of me. This is especially the case when people I love are under threat of harm. It does not sit well with me. Yesterday, I was present at … Continue reading “Passionate Protector”
Newish Song – Aid to Worship
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. -Psalm 23:4, KJV Recently, I discovered a fairly new song. It is about going through the deep valley and suffering. The song is “Walk On” … Continue reading “Newish Song – Aid to Worship”
So. Many. Mistakes.
Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? -Proverbs 6:27, NIV So many “mistakes!” Cheating does not “just happen” as some might try to characterize it. Rather, cheating is the culmination of a series of bad, sinful choices. The illicit sex is just the final one in that series. It … Continue reading “So. Many. Mistakes.”
Unexpected gift
I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God so that you may know that you have eternal life. -I John 5:13, NIV When I was a teenager and a young man, I remember having anxiety about my eternal salvation. Was I saved or not? I do not have … Continue reading “Unexpected gift”
Cheater Speak: “I don’t want you to think….”
“I don’t want you to think that I am divorcing you over him (Other Man),” says Cheater. Not only is your cheater leaving you, she is trying to tell you what to think about that action! That takes some real arrogance to go that far. Yet arrogance and pride is one thing cheaters have in … Continue reading “Cheater Speak: “I don’t want you to think….””
PSA: Not about you, faithful spouse!
Public Service Announcement: The cheating is NOT about you, faithful spouse! And it is not about the quality of your marriage either. Marital infidelity flows out of the heart of the one committing the sin (see Mark 7:21-23). It does not come from the victim of the sin OR marriage conditions. Anyone trying to focus … Continue reading “PSA: Not about you, faithful spouse!”
Pretending?
“I can’t keep pretending about our marriage!” cries Cheater. What I find interesting, now, about such a statement is how twisted it is. The Cheater is so self-deceived to think they are being “honest” by breaking their most sacred vows. If anything is “pretending,” it is the Cheater pretending NOT to be off the market … Continue reading “Pretending?”
Communication issue? Hmmm.
The only “communication” issue needing addressing stat is the absolute, verified ending of the affair. A cheater can keep a pastor and faithful spouse chasing random rabbit trails for a very long time if they are convinced the marriage issues are anything other than ending the affair. Lot of energy can be lost focusing on … Continue reading “Communication issue? Hmmm.”
Drop the hammer
“What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? God will judge those outside. “Expel the wicked person from among you.”” -I Corinthians 5:12-13, NIV Does there come a time when a leader needs to “drop the hammer” on someone? This passage from I Corinthians 5 … Continue reading “Drop the hammer”