32 Then the king called in the man he had forgiven and said, ‘You evil servant! I forgave you that tremendous debt because you pleaded with me. 33 Shouldn’t you have mercy on your fellow servant, just as I had mercy on you?’ -Matthew 18:32-33, NLT What is more likely? Jesus added burdens to the already overburdened victim … Continue reading “What is more likely?”
More hearts
Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and nights. No one said a word to Job, for they saw that his suffering was too great for words. -Job 2:13, NIV Just as the wedding day is a family event, the adultery discovery and divorce are felt by the same family as … Continue reading “More hearts”
Sadness for a season
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: ….a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance… -Ecclesiastes 3:1,4, NIV I remember fearing I would be crying forever when my life blew up around my (now) ex-wife’s abandonment and … Continue reading “Sadness for a season”
YOUR call!
“And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery—unless his wife has been unfaithful.” -Matthew 19:9, NLT Whether you stay or choose divorce is YOUR call! Not mine. Not your pastor’s. Not your therapist’s. YOUR call! I think it is important to take responsibility for our choices and not … Continue reading “YOUR call!”
Sane Voices
Wisdom will save you from evil people, from those whose words are twisted. -Proverbs 2:12, NLT When going through infidelity discovery, faithful spouses need wisdom. We need sane voices as the situation is maddening. I went through my infidelity discovery experience in my late 20s and look back now in my 40s wishing someone with … Continue reading “Sane Voices”
We had “opportunity” too!
24 It will keep you from the immoral woman, from the smooth tongue of a promiscuous woman. 25 Don’t lust for her beauty. Don’t let her coy glances seduce you. -Proverbs 6:24-25, NLT We had opportunity, too! That is the thing about people with character. They do NOT give into temptation. Their vows means something to them. … Continue reading “We had “opportunity” too!”
Ready, Not Forgiven
For You, Lord, are good, and ready to forgive, And abundant in mercy to all those who call upon You. -Psalm 86:5, NKJV “God is ready to forgive.” -Diane Langberg, Ph.D. I was on an online event today where Dr. Diane Langberg spoke. She brought this point up about forgiveness as a point about God’s forgiveness. The idea … Continue reading “Ready, Not Forgiven”
Self-serving Scruples
This made the Pharisees and teachers of religious law complain that he was associating with such sinful people—even eating with them! -Luke 15:2, NLT Funny how cheaters and their apologists will appeal to “Christian” ideals when it serves them. As soon as you point out their need to repent, they try to change the subject … Continue reading “Self-serving Scruples”
Emotional Affair Admissions
But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. -Matthew 5:28, NLT I am convinced Cheaters will generally admit the “lesser” of their sins when caught. This means in an evangelical Christian world that they will admit an emotional affair before they admit … Continue reading “Emotional Affair Admissions”
Accept all criticism?
Is every criticism worth consuming? Do we always learn something about ourselves from a criticism? Short answer: No. If someone knows you tend to always “consume” or take to heart a criticism, this gives that individual incredible power over you. They are able to control you via their criticism. This is unhealthy and ungodly. Fearing … Continue reading “Accept all criticism?”