…whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. -Hebrews 13:4b, KJV How do you put a price on that? Some Christians are so busy blaming a faithful spouse that they fail to see the incredible loses this individual has unjustly endured. They do not “get it.” In the evangelical culture, many of us were raised to value … Continue reading “How do you put a price on that?”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Just because the cheater is in the pastor’s office, doesn’t mean they ended the affair.
Just because a cheater has agreed to see a Christian counselor or pastor to work on the marriage does not necessarily mean the cheater has ended the affair. It boggles my mind to think a cheater would attend Christian marriage counseling with a therapist or pastor while secretly continuing to cheat. But it happens! I know … Continue reading “Just because the cheater is in the pastor’s office, doesn’t mean they ended the affair.”
“The Assessment”
As I have observed, those who plow evil and those who sow trouble reap it. -Job 4:8, NIV “The Assessment” Within the evangelical culture, the belief that the faithful spouse did something “to deserve” the adulterous desertion of their partner is all too prevalent. They have not learned from this erroneous assessment by one of Job’s … Continue reading ““The Assessment””
A seared conscience
But the [Holy] Spirit explicitly and unmistakably declares that in later times some will turn away from the faith…[misled] by the hypocrisy of liars whose consciences are seared as with a branding iron [leaving them incapable of ethical functioning]…. -I Timothy 4:1a,2, AMP When a cheater is telling their spouse, pastor, and/or Christian counselor that … Continue reading “A seared conscience”
So, if someone killed a terminally ill person, is she therefore NOT a murderer?
Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! -I Corinthians 6:15, NLT Christians seem especially shy in assigning blame to a cheater for destroying his or her marriage. Many seem to believe or operate … Continue reading “So, if someone killed a terminally ill person, is she therefore NOT a murderer?”
Infidelity and “The False Gospel of Self-Fulfillment”
See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy…. -Colossians 2:8a, NIV Recently, I came across a fascinating article in Christianity Today by Jen Pollock Michel entitled “Glennon Doyle Melton’s Gospel of Self-Fulfillment: Why living your truth bravely isn’t enough.” The article takes aim at the thinking espoused by famous Momastery blogger, … Continue reading “Infidelity and “The False Gospel of Self-Fulfillment””
Cheaters are active agents in choosing a hardened heart.
And Pharaoh hardened his heart at this time also, neither would he let the people go. -Exodus 8:32, KJV Cheaters become cheaters by going down “The Road of Bad Choices.” They have hard hearts because they have chosen to harden their hearts just as Pharaoh did. I make this point for two reasons: 1) I suspect … Continue reading “Cheaters are active agents in choosing a hardened heart.”
Loves little.
“Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—as her great love has shown. But whoever has been forgiven little loves little.” -Luke 7:47, NIV Did anyone here have a cheater (or cheater defender) who was dismissive of your offer–as the victim of the adultery–to forgive? This verse attributed to Jesus comes to mind … Continue reading “Loves little.”
Todd Bentley denounced by major charismatic leaders as morally unfit for leadership
Todd Bentley is a major figure in the Charismatic Christian world whose alleged sexual immorality has disqualified him for ministry leadership per others. The leaders who wrote did the investigation into the immorality allegations and made their report include Dr. Michael Brown, Joseph Mattera, James Goll, Jane Hamon, Bishop Harry Jackson, and Don Finto. Among … Continue reading “Todd Bentley denounced by major charismatic leaders as morally unfit for leadership”
Predisposed to disbelief of the evidence
I did not want to believe it. Who, in their right mind, would want to believe their spouse was secretly having sex with another?! This is important to note for faithful spouses. We are predisposed to disbelief. To believe even very concrete evidence of sexual infidelity means dealing with the reality that your world has … Continue reading “Predisposed to disbelief of the evidence”