Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, “Vengeance is mine; I will repay,” saith the Lord. -Romans 12:19, KJV I find this verse instructive as it comes to forgiving cheaters. First, it tells us to release to God our fantasies of taking revenge on our abusers. Many … Continue reading “The verse does not say…”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Pro-Tip: She’s cheating if she considers his opinion is more important than yours.
He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church…. –Ephesians 5:28b-29, NIV PRO TIP: If another dude’s feelings are more important to your wife than yours, then that is a clear signal that your … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: She’s cheating if she considers his opinion is more important than yours.”
It burns.
The demons begged Jesus, “Send us among the pigs; allow us to go into them [pigs].” -Mark 5:12, NIV Cheaters often do not want to face the truth. Confronted with the truth about how evil their behavior is, some choose to run away or blame the faithful spouse. The truth burns. A cheater who has … Continue reading “It burns.”
Real love means making choices.
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” -John 13:34, NIV Jesus is not commanding our feelings. That would not make sense. Our emotions just are. A command implies a choice to do or not to do something. That means we have a choice–i.e. … Continue reading “Real love means making choices.”
When pastors and “Christian” counselors cheat…
For the land is full of adultery,and it lies under a curse.The land itself is in mourning—its wilderness pastures are dried up.For they all do eviland abuse what power they have. -Jeremiah 23:10,NLT When the cheater is a pastor or “Christian” counselor, it brings another layer of evil to the matter, in my opinion. Both … Continue reading “When pastors and “Christian” counselors cheat…”
Cheaters just assume…
“Please pay no attention, my lord, to that wicked man Nabal. He is just like his name—his name means Fool, and folly goes with him.” -I Samuel 25:25a, NIV Cheaters just assume. They assume that you will roll over and do their bidding. Cheaters do not think we have a backbone…probably because we have allowed … Continue reading “Cheaters just assume…”
PSA: If they’re blaming, then cheaters aren’t there to rebuild the marriage.
And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” -Genesis 3:11-12, NIV Just because a cheater goes to couple’s therapy … Continue reading “PSA: If they’re blaming, then cheaters aren’t there to rebuild the marriage.”
Stop digging up those old “bones.”
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!” -Isaiah 43:18-19a, NIV Sometimes ruminating on the past just inflicts more suffering. Not doing this is easier said than done, of course. We do need space to tell our stories plus acknowledge what happened actually happened. That is … Continue reading “Stop digging up those old “bones.””
Da birds
“Look at all the birds—do you think they worry about their existence? They don’t plant or reap or store up food, yet your heavenly Father provides them each with food. Aren’t you much more valuable to your Father than they?” -Matthew 6:26a, TPT Financial worry was a really close companion during the end of … Continue reading “Da birds”
PSA: Cheaters are manipulators.
Public Service Announcement: Cheaters are manipulators! That is how they roll. Cheaters use the trust of the faithful spouse to avoid consequences for their sinful behaviors. Cheaters lie, which is always a form of manipulation. They withhold truth. Also, many will engage in gas-lighting their victims. (For those unfamiliar with the term of “gas-lighting,” it … Continue reading “PSA: Cheaters are manipulators.”