You can rationalize it all you want and justify the path of error you have chosen, but you’ll find out in the end that you took the road to destruction. -Proverbs 14:12, TPT “I have to follow my heart,” says the cheater. “God would want me to be happy,” says the cheater. “I have to … Continue reading “Leads to destruction”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Glad God Condemns
God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4b, NLT God is love…. -I John 4:16b, KJV If God does not condemn anything, can God real be loving? I do not think so. That is why I am grateful God does condemn adultery as evil (see Deut. 22:22). Such condemnation is … Continue reading “Glad God Condemns”
Still a virgin? Really?!
(Nora defines “fooling around” as beyond making out but short of intercourse—to her knowledge, Crist never engaged in intercourse so he could honestly say he was a virgin.) -Taylor Berglund, “John Crist Cancels 2019 Tour Dates After Reports of Sexting, Harassment, Manipulation” This sentence in the article about disgraced Christian Comedian John Crist caught my … Continue reading “Still a virgin? Really?!”
Christian Comedian John Crist Fiasco
Recently, news broke about a Christian comedian known for his parodies of the evangelical culture. John Crist canceled his tour to deal with a pattern of admitted sinful behavior towards women. If half of what is shared in the breaking article (click here) is true, Crist is a predator. The article shares stories of how … Continue reading “Christian Comedian John Crist Fiasco”
That Cheater Cycle
Anyone recognize the following cycle? Cheat. Cheater says, “It was a ‘cry for help.’ [Insert favorite blame directed at faithful spouse].” Cheat, again. Cheater says, “Our marriage problems have nothing to do with [affair partner]. You know that you [insert favorite blame directed at faithful spouse].” Continues cheating. This cycle is nothing new. Cheaters do … Continue reading “That Cheater Cycle”
“Stuff happens” minimization
Me: “I got divorced. Then I had to go through a trial with my denomination to keep my license.” Friend: “Don’t they realize that stuff happens.” I do not recommend the “stuff happens” response to someone whose marriage has been blown up by adultery. While I appreciate this friend’s effort to be understanding, the stance … Continue reading ““Stuff happens” minimization”
PSA: Get STD Tested!
One of the most humiliating aspects of dealing with a cheater is this need to know. If a cheater is unwilling to submit to STD tests, then you have your answer as to how repentant they are–i.e. not at all. It is rather low hanging fruit–so to speak–for a cheater to provide scientifically verified assurance … Continue reading “PSA: Get STD Tested!”
Chuztpah of cheaters complaining about “communication”
“He never talks to me!” whines Cheater. I find it really rich that a cheater would complain about lack of communication from the faithful spouse. It takes a lot of prideful blindness to make such a complaint. Pure chutzpah! Remember: The cheater is perfectly fine not communicating with the faithful spouse how they are stealing … Continue reading “Chuztpah of cheaters complaining about “communication””
What if pastors and Christian counselors had “skin” in the game?
What if pastors and Christian counselors had to pay a faithful spouse $10,000 or more if they were wrong about the cheating being over?! In my opinion, faithful spouses who stay in marriages for subsequent infidelity discoveries are loosing more than just $10,000. They are loosing precious time, emotional well-being, and physical well-being (e.g. risk … Continue reading “What if pastors and Christian counselors had “skin” in the game?”
That dismembered feeling.
I work in hospice and have the opportunity to watch the poignant beauty of marriages that have lasted well past fifty years.* I say, “poignant” because I feel both awed by the sheer beauty of a couple still caring for each other after many decades together as well as sad by my own loss. Recently, … Continue reading “That dismembered feeling.”