But Jesus said, “Judas, would you betray the Son of Man with a kiss?” -Luke 22:48, NLT Some “friends” will “kiss” you with words-bespeaking of their love for you-while they further the cheater’s agenda of blame-shifting the infidelity and marriage’s demise upon you. It is confusing enough dealing with the lies and deceptions of a … Continue reading “On “Deadwood Friends””
Category: Trauma of adultery
Cannot Help Themselves
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Even–maybe especially–when caught red-handed and finally acknowledging their infidelity, cheaters will STILL try to shift the attention onto the faithful spouse’s “deficiencies.” The majority of their confession is light … Continue reading “Cannot Help Themselves”
On Sin and Difficult Circumstances
“What have you done?” asked Samuel. Saul replied, “When I saw that the men were scattering, and that you did not come at the set time, and that the Philistines were assembling at Mikmash, I thought, ‘Now the Philistines will come down against me at Gilgal, and I have not sought the Lord’s favor.’ So … Continue reading “On Sin and Difficult Circumstances”
When a lack of sex (or attention) is treated as the cause…
“For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come—sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and defile a person.” -Mark 7:21-23, NIV When a lack of sex (or attention) is treated as the cause… Infidelity is not … Continue reading “When a lack of sex (or attention) is treated as the cause…”
More Attention? More Sex?
The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. -I Corinthians 7:3, NIV Cheaters like to shift the blame upon faithful spouses after the fact! -A cheating husband might attack his wife by talking about how he would never have cheated if they had had more sex. -A … Continue reading “More Attention? More Sex?”
Cheater-Speak: “Our relationship was toxic.”
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Did I miss something? When I read this verse–part of the Ten Commandments–I don’t see where it says, “Thou shalt not commit adultery unless [you believe] your marriage is a toxic relationship.” I don’t see it because it is NOT there! This is an especially lame cheater excuse or … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “Our relationship was toxic.””
Some Healthy and Godly Boundaries
“If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them.” -Luke 17:3b, NIV Confusion is great dealing with a cheater. Sadly, pastors and other Christian leaders too often do not help faithful spouses through this confusion. They add to it in an attempt to look impartial and “professional.” These are … Continue reading “Some Healthy and Godly Boundaries”
God Is Wrathful Towards the Adulterous!
I will sentence you to the punishment of women who commit adultery and who shed blood; I will bring on you the blood vengeance of my wrath and jealous anger. -Ezekiel 16:38, NIV God is neither meek or neutral when it comes to adultery. Rather, He is righteously wrathful! A godly response to adultery–as we … Continue reading “God Is Wrathful Towards the Adulterous!”
Never speak of “it” again? But God did!
“Have you seen what faithless Israel has done? She has gone up on every high hill and under every spreading tree and has committed adultery there.” -Jeremiah 3:6b, NIV Yes, you are an adulterous wife who takes in strangers instead of her own husband. -Ezekiel 16:32, NLT They are unfaithful to the … Continue reading “Never speak of “it” again? But God did!”
Christian “Expert”: “God never commands us to divorce a cheater.”
“God never commands us to divorce a cheater.” – Christian “expert” “Technically true, God never explicitly commands us to divorce a cheater. BUT God DOES repeatedly and explicitly command His people to put adulterous cheaters to death!” -Divorce Minister. I am so tired of hearing pastors and other Christian “experts” spout off to faithful spouses … Continue reading “Christian “Expert”: “God never commands us to divorce a cheater.””