23 Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: 24 And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. -Psalm 139:23-24, KJV A natural temptation is to focus on controlling or directing the cheater’s behavior. Please do your best to resist this temptation! … Continue reading “A natural temptation”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Integrity is worth a lot.
When Peter saw him [John], he asked, “Lord, what about him?” Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me.” – John 21:21-22, NIV It is understandable. You have been soul raped and your world has been turned upside down by your partner’s selfish, … Continue reading “Integrity is worth a lot.”
The Cheater Scramble: “How did you find out?”
“How did you find out?” says incredulous, busted Cheater. When a cheater gets busted and their first impulse is to learn how you discovered them, you know that cheater is the opposite of repentant. Such is pride speaking–namely, they wrongly assumed that they could deceive you forever. Now, the cheater wants to know how they … Continue reading “The Cheater Scramble: “How did you find out?””
Sometimes you must condemn in order to be godly!
O Lord, shouldn’t I hate those who hate you? Shouldn’t I despise those who oppose you? Yes, I hate them with total hatred, for your enemies are my enemies. -Psalm 139:21-22, NLT When condemning is a good thing… Currently, most people will not have a problem condemning pedophilia. It is wrong, and talking about victims may evoke anger over … Continue reading “Sometimes you must condemn in order to be godly!”
Can you tell what the Greek is for “soul rape?”
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! -I Corinthians 6:15, NKJV When I explained how a cheater violates the soul of a faithful spouse as soul rape, I had a “Christian” psychologist retort to me: “What’s the … Continue reading “Can you tell what the Greek is for “soul rape?””
Cheaters abusing through money power
Teach those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which is so unreliable. Their trust should be in God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment. -I Timothy 6:17, NLT Cheaters can be cruel. Money is just one leverage point cheaters use … Continue reading “Cheaters abusing through money power”
Vowing “…for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer….”
For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT “…for better, for worse…” These are familiar parts of the wedding vows in a Christian wedding ceremony. But do we really believe … Continue reading “Vowing “…for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer….””
Would have been 15 years today…
Today would have been our fifteenth wedding anniversary. The odd thing about grief is that it does not simply go away. It has a tendency to remind us of what was lost on anniversaries as if the spiritual fabric of our souls has scarred but never forgotten the wound. My anger over the injustices is … Continue reading “Would have been 15 years today…”
Theological Fact: God does NOT forgive everyone!
“And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.” -Matthew 7:23, KJV While I believe God makes forgiveness available to all (John 3:16, 2 Cor 5:14, etc), I do not believe all are forgiven. This verse from the Sermon on the Mount makes that much clear. … Continue reading “Theological Fact: God does NOT forgive everyone!”
Disturbed people only see it as leverage
The wicked flee though no one pursues…. -Proverbs 28:1a, NIV Disturbed people only see a history of cheating as leverage in a marriage. They could care less how the cheating has damaged and harmed the faithful spouse. The bigger problem for them is that they fear the faithful spouse “forever” holding it “over the head” … Continue reading “Disturbed people only see it as leverage”