“I will place shepherds over them who will tend them, and they will no longer be afraid or terrified, nor will any be missing,” declares the Lord. -Jeremiah 23:4, NIV When going through adultery discovery and divorce, it is hard to know which pastor to trust. Does this one care more for “saving” my marriage or … Continue reading “A good pastor eases fears”
Category: Demons and Spiritual Warfare
Cheater-Speak: “I’m afraid of you.”
“I’m afraid of you,” says Cheater. This is usually a very effective manipulation by a usually female cheater. It is designed to garner instant sympathy from outsiders. You are generally not going to argue with someone who claims to feel unsafe. The problem is how this is a lie. Many of these cheaters will say … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I’m afraid of you.””
The real “pretending”
“I can’t keep pretending about our marriage!” cries Cheater. What I find interesting, now, about such a statement is how twisted it is. The Cheater is so self-deceived to think they are being “honest” by breaking their most sacred vows. If anything is “pretending,” it is the Cheater pretending NOT to be off the market … Continue reading “The real “pretending””
Selfishness as demonic
15 For jealousy and selfishness are not God’s kind of wisdom. Such things are earthly, unspiritual, and demonic. 16 For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind. -James 3:15-16, NLT Selfishness as Demonic Few acts are as selfish as cheating. The cheater only sees the immediate gratification they … Continue reading “Selfishness as demonic”
Their allergic reaction to biblical truth
The demons begged Jesus, “Send us among the pigs; allow us to go into them [pigs].” -Mark 5:12, NIV Cheaters often do not want to face the truth. Confronted with the truth about how evil their behavior is, some choose to run away or blame the faithful spouse. The truth burns. Take a cheater who … Continue reading “Their allergic reaction to biblical truth”
Put the shovel down!
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!” -Isaiah 43:18-19a, NIV Sometimes ruminating on the past just inflicts more suffering. Not doing this is easier said than done, of course. We do need space to tell our stories plus acknowledge what happened actually happened. That is … Continue reading “Put the shovel down!”
Lessons from the birds
“Look at all the birds—do you think they worry about their existence? They don’t plant or reap or store up food, yet your heavenly Father provides them each with food. Aren’t you much more valuable to your Father than they?” -Matthew 6:26a, TPT Financial worry was a really close companion during the end of … Continue reading “Lessons from the birds”
Toxic “Christian” Leaders
15 Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food. 16 If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it? -James 2:14-16, NIV Plenty of Christian leaders will tell you that they love you and are praying … Continue reading “Toxic “Christian” Leaders”
Detox your soul through thanksgiving
Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever. -Psalm 107:1, NIV Sometimes we need a detox from seeing the vile stuff cheaters and their supporters do. I think the best way to do this detox is by giving thanks. We all have things for which we can give thanks. Even the breath … Continue reading “Detox your soul through thanksgiving”
Choosing battles and bridges to burn
To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven…. -Ecclesiastes 3:1, NKJV Not every battle is worth fighting with a disordered individual. Not every bridge is worth maintaining. Some battles are best left alone. Some bridges are best burned. There is a season for everything. Many of us are not inclined to fight. … Continue reading “Choosing battles and bridges to burn”