Don’t follow after the wicked ones or be jealous of their wealth.Don’t think for a moment they’re better off than you. They and their short-lived successwill soon shrivel up and quickly fade awaylike grass clippings in the hot sun. -Psalm 37:1-2, TPT Much energy can be wasted in cheater envy. Been there. Done that. It is … Continue reading “Hell of their own creation”
Category: Emotional Affair
People of Nineveh: Models in true repentance
7 Then the king and his nobles sent this decree throughout the city: “No one, not even the animals from your herds and flocks, may eat or drink anything at all. 8 People and animals alike must wear garments of mourning, and everyone must pray earnestly to God. They must turn from their evil ways and stop … Continue reading “People of Nineveh: Models in true repentance”
Bad enough…for you!
A cheater does not need to be a total monster in order to be bad for you. I suspect most cheaters (if not all) have some “redeeming” qualities about themselves. If they didn’t, we probably never would have married them in the first place. They are mix–like all of us–of good and bad traits. But … Continue reading “Bad enough…for you!”
Honesty of no ring
Some cheaters will remove their wedding ring while cheating. Mine was still cheating and lying with her wedding ring removed. Her anger was almost palpable when I mentioned seeing it gone in my confrontation with her over the Other Man. Denying her sexual infidelity with this man (later confirmed as a lie in writing to … Continue reading “Honesty of no ring”
An excellent article about financial infidelity and cheating
Cheating sexually and financially sadly go hand and hand. Today’s post is simply a shout out to an article written by Chump Lady, Tracy Shorn, found in The Girlfriend from AARP. The article is entitled: “When Your Spouse Cheats On You — Financially.” This article shares a particularly horrifying experience where a cheater was literally … Continue reading “An excellent article about financial infidelity and cheating”
Dear DM, Is divorce okay in my situation?
Hi Pastor Dave (DM): I think I am doing the right thing in allowing or agreeing to my divorce. I have your book and have started reading through it. Maybe you touch on it later. So far the book is focusing mainly on affairs where there has been physical contact/adultery. Here is my situation: In … Continue reading “Dear DM, Is divorce okay in my situation?”
Cheater-Speak: What’s wrong with having friends?!
“Beware of false prophets who come disguised as harmless sheep but are really vicious wolves.” -Matthew 7:15, NLT “Aren’t I allowed to have ‘friends?!’” -Cheater I think this is one of the most dangerous tools at the disposal of cheaters. It effectively puts the faithful spouse on the defensive as he or she tries … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: What’s wrong with having friends?!”
Dear Divorce Minister, How do I silence that toxic voice in my head?
Hi there, While I am nowhere near ready to begin dating again, I have been meeting new people and making new friends and I occasionally run into women who I find interesting or attractive in one way or another who I sorta mentally file away for later, when I feel ready. Unfortunately, a lot of … Continue reading “Dear Divorce Minister, How do I silence that toxic voice in my head?”
Hostage to Acknowledgement?
Are you waiting on an acknowledgment of wrongdoing by your cheater? I have some good and bad news on that front… First, I will share the bad news: You may never get an acknowledgment (and a full confession) of wrongdoing from your cheater. Some people are so disordered, cowardly, and/or wicked to do so. Waiting … Continue reading “Hostage to Acknowledgement?”
Mine! Mine! Mine! Cheater Toddler Mindset.
“‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh.” -Mark 10:7-8, NIV “Mine!” A Toddler’s Mindset In Marriage One of the oddest dynamics that I have seen over and again while dealing with … Continue reading “Mine! Mine! Mine! Cheater Toddler Mindset.”