As the Scriptures say, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” -James 4:6b, NLT When your cheater shows contempt for you, that is a sure sign that they are not the least bit repentant. Now, they may be annoyed to have to deal with the consequences of their actions. Their god-like assessment … Continue reading “Beware of cheater contempt”
Category: Emotional Affair
That whole “forsaking all others” part!
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. – Genesis 2:24, KJV In my fear of being labelled “controlling,” I had a difficult time recognizing and affirming healthy jealousy and boundaries while my marriage was imploding. I suspect I am not … Continue reading “That whole “forsaking all others” part!”
Oh, the stress!
My tears have been my food day and night, While they continually say to me, “Where is your God?” -Psalm 42:3, NKJV I remember going through a phase during my separation and divorce where I had to consciously remind myself to eat. The trauma from discovering the Other Man resulted in a twenty pound weight … Continue reading “Oh, the stress!”
Christians repent of considering adultery!
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4, NLT While we are all capable of adultery (when married), a person who follows Christ recognizes such as sin immediately and repents of entertaining the idea if it … Continue reading “Christians repent of considering adultery!”
I wonder….
I wonder… …do some cheaters ever even consider they might be the problem. Of course, the usual course of these things is to externalize the problem. They blame their spouse. Or they might blame the affair partner. Another candidate might be the stresses of work. Cheaters have a long list of things or people to blame … Continue reading “I wonder….”
“Kid” glove approach because the cheater is a woman
“Rebuke your mother, rebuke her, for she is not my wife, and I am not her husband. Let her remove the adulterous look from her face and the unfaithfulness from between her breasts.” -Hosea 2:2, NIV Pastors and other Christian counselors have a tendency to advocate for gentler confrontation with female cheaters. It is a kid gloves … Continue reading ““Kid” glove approach because the cheater is a woman”
Lack of self-esteem? Really?!
“This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’” -Proverbs 30:20, NIV While a cheater might blame their cheating on a lack of self-esteem, I find this excuse rather lame. They “esteemed” themselves so much that they took or gave what did not belong … Continue reading “Lack of self-esteem? Really?!”
An ode to self-respect: “Babe” by Sugerland
I admire those faithful spouses who were able to enforce their boundaries with “just” one revelation of infidelity. These rare souls know they deserve to be treated better. And they have no problems enforcing their “deal-breakers” as in “You cheat on me, and we are over. Period.” And for those who come here that are … Continue reading “An ode to self-respect: “Babe” by Sugerland”
Preparing for that first, post-infidelity discovery couple’s session
Cheating is exposed. Now, the cheater is willing to go to couples therapy and rebuild what the cheater destroyed. How does a faithful spouse approach such sessions with a Christian couples counselor? 1. Remember you have choices here. Did you choose this counselor? What do you know about him or her? If this person is … Continue reading “Preparing for that first, post-infidelity discovery couple’s session”
When all seems lost, cling to God.
Some songs can invoke a time in our lives with just a few notes. This song, “You Won’t Relent,” by Misty Edwards does that for me. It transports me back to the immediate time after my divorce. The devastation of an unwanted divorce is incredible. I think this is especially true for those of us … Continue reading “When all seems lost, cling to God.”