Then God said, “Take your son, your only son, whom you love–Isaac–and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on a mountain I will show you.” -Genesis 22:2, NIV Leave it to cheaters to pretend they are doing something noble while acting treacherously and wickedly towards their spouse. They … Continue reading “Grandiose Martyr Cheater”
Category: Emotional Affair
Correcting cheap cheater forgiveness teachings
Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV “God forgives me. So what’s your problem?!” -Cheater Does … Continue reading “Correcting cheap cheater forgiveness teachings”
David Clarke, Ph.D. Online Resource
While wondering on the internet looking for resources from David Clarke, PhD, I stumbled upon his website (click here). These past few days I have been listening to his podcast. He has some good things to say in those podcasts. Clarke is not a wimpy Christian counselor. He does not let cheaters off the hook … Continue reading “David Clarke, Ph.D. Online Resource”
A miserable cheater
Assuming a cheater is miserable because their spouse is so lousy is a dangerously bad assumption. The misery may simply result from a discord between their actions and their morals. They cannot escape the condemnation in their hearts over the sins they are committing. It is also possible their misery is a result of unresolved … Continue reading “A miserable cheater”
Cheaters and their spouse improvement lists
Cheaters sometimes come with the faithful spouse to a pastor (or Christian marriage counselor) with a list. This is a list designed to excuse their behavior and keep the focus off their own sin. Many take the bait. We, faithful spouses, think that if we do the requested self-improvements then we can save our marriage. … Continue reading “Cheaters and their spouse improvement lists”
If they blame you for their emotional affair…
If they blame you for their emotional affair… …be aware that they will have no problem blaming you for a physical affair, too! This is one of the many reasons to take an emotional affair seriously. Once the cheater feels embolden to believe lies about emotional affairs–namely, they are not responsible for such sin–then consider … Continue reading “If they blame you for their emotional affair…”
The “Deadwood Friends”
But Jesus said, “Judas, would you betray the Son of Man with a kiss?” -Luke 22:48, NLT Some “friends” will “kiss” you with words-bespeaking of their love for you-while they further the cheater’s agenda of blame-shifting the infidelity and marriage’s demise upon you. It is confusing enough dealing with the lies and deceptions of a … Continue reading “The “Deadwood Friends””
Cheater claims “toxic marriage”
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Did I miss something? When I read this verse–part of the Ten Commandments–I don’t see where it says, “Thou shalt not commit adultery unless [you believe] your marriage is a toxic relationship.” I don’t see it because it is NOT there! This is an especially lame cheater excuse or … Continue reading “Cheater claims “toxic marriage””
Words from a proven liar
The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy. -Proverbs 12:22, NIV A spouse cannot commit adultery without being a liar. They vowed to “forsake all others,” and they broke that vow. They lied. This is an important truth to keep in mind when dealing with a cheater. It is vital … Continue reading “Words from a proven liar”
Spiritual Sickness and Forgiveness
“If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them.” -Luke 17:3b, NIV If you are stabbing your mate in the soul by committing adultery and twisting the “knife” by lying about it, you are not spiritually healthy. You are spiritually sick. Forgiveness from a faithful spouse does not necessarily … Continue reading “Spiritual Sickness and Forgiveness”