If I could write my own ticket, I would teach a seminary class on helping adultery victims and holding cheaters accountable. -Included in this class would be a primer on how divorce is not always sin as well as how divorce can be a mercy to victims of infidelity. Anger and ire ought to be … Continue reading “Need Seminary Classes Dealing With Divorce and Infidelity Situations”
Category: Forgiveness
Feeling Bad Is NOT Enough!
Then Saul admitted to Samuel, “Yes, I have sinned. I have disobeyed your instructions and the Lord’s command, for I was afraid of the people and did what they demanded.” -I Samuel 15:24, NLT Feeling Bad Is Not Enough Even though Saul called his disobedience sin, God did not accept this late and lame confession–(notice the … Continue reading “Feeling Bad Is NOT Enough!”
God Is Not Okay With Cheaters Refusing To Repent
Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV These two verse uttered by Jesus are why I doubt … Continue reading “God Is Not Okay With Cheaters Refusing To Repent”
Over-Emphasis on Unforgiveness
Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many. -Hebrews 12:15b, NLT A phenomenon all too familiar to faithful spouses is encountering “concerned” Christians “warning” them about the hazards of unforgiveness and bitterness. These same “concerned” Christians are often quick to judge a faithful spouse’s heart and slow–if … Continue reading “Over-Emphasis on Unforgiveness”
Assessing Forgiveness Vs Assessing Repentance
“The men of Nineveh will stand up at the judgment with this generation and condemn it; for they repented at the preaching of Jonah, and now something greater than Jonah is here.” -Matthew 12:41, NIV If godly forgiveness is truly unilateral, why would Jesus not simply tell his Jewish audience they are already forgiven? The … Continue reading “Assessing Forgiveness Vs Assessing Repentance”
An Important “IF”
“If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and IF they repent, forgive them.” -Luke 17:3b, NIV (Emphasis Mine) IF we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. -I John 1:9, NKJV AN IMPORTANT “IF” When Christians encounter situations where marital infidelity has taken … Continue reading “An Important “IF””
Dear DM, Do I just keep sucking it up?
Dear Divorce Minister, As hard as it is, I have been reading your posts as an offender against my husband. I have taken full responsibility for my actions, I believe I repented and worked for years to make amends. He says he has forgiven me, yet why do I feel as if I’m being constantly … Continue reading “Dear DM, Do I just keep sucking it up?”
No Issues With Never Being Married To Her Again.
Not one of you will enter the land I swore with uplifted hand to make your home, except Caleb son of Jephunneh and Joshua son of Nun. -Numbers 14:30, NIV While I hope my ex-wife finds repentance one day, I have moved on with my life. We will never be married again as I am … Continue reading “No Issues With Never Being Married To Her Again.”
Mistake Made In Re-Engaging
The Other Man was discovered. I wrote a letter to my (then) wife letting her know I would not tolerate her cheating anymore. She could either choose to work to prove to me that her cheating days were over, or she could expect me to terminate my relationship–friendship included–with her permanently. Obviously, she chose the … Continue reading “Mistake Made In Re-Engaging”
The “Model Divorced”
“Yes, we are divorced. But we’re friends. I understand I made mistakes, too, in our marriage.” – “Model” Divorcee If you do get divorced, I sense this is what people–maybe Christians especially–want to hear. They want a nice narrative where they do not have to pick sides. And maybe some divorcees can become friends with each other after the … Continue reading “The “Model Divorced””