Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? -2 Corinthians 6:14, KJV Whether one is abandoned or cheated on or both, the reality for faithful spouses is as stark as this verse from 2 Corinthians paints it. Light cannot fellowship with … Continue reading “Mismatching”
Category: Musings
Enjoying a new tune
While not particularly about infidelity, I have found a new song enjoyable. It has a spunk about it. The song is about refusing to be spiritually manipulated anymore. Enjoy:
Dear Younger Self
Dear 30 Year Old Self, It is going to be alright. Really, it is. I know that seems unlikely right now. Your world has been blown apart and the future seems bleak. Trust me: It gets better, much better! The chaplaincy internship that you are doing today will lead to a bright future for you. It … Continue reading “Dear Younger Self”
Cheater Generated Anxieties
One of the many difficulties of dealing with a cheater is how they induce panic and anxiety in us. I can remember feeling such panic and anxiety during each interaction with my cheater. Maybe it is just me?! But I doubt it. This fear and panic comes from all the nasty surprises one gets in … Continue reading “Cheater Generated Anxieties”
So many bad decisions!
For this command is a lamp, this teaching is a light, and correction and instruction are the way to life, keeping you from your neighbor’s wife, from the smooth talk of a wayward woman. -Proverbs 6:23-24, NIV So many bad decisions! The act of infidelity is often underplayed by cheaters and cheater apologists. They treat … Continue reading “So many bad decisions!”
Interesting Stuck Phenomenon
18 Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old. 19 Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert. -Isaiah 43:18-19, KJV Discovering cheating can launch one into a season of … Continue reading “Interesting Stuck Phenomenon”
Unchosen path
“…when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go.” -John 21:18b, NIV Unfortunately, I was the first. Somehow, my huge family had never experienced a divorce on either side of the immediate family at that time. But I … Continue reading “Unchosen path”
Twelve Years! Double My First Marriage.
Twelve Years Strong! When I went through my divorce from my cheater, I had no idea about my future. Everything looked dark and very bleak. That included employment as well as family dreams. So much changed on this day twelve years ago! It remains the happiest day of my life. To the fear purveyors around … Continue reading “Twelve Years! Double My First Marriage.”
Grateful for God’s Anger!
In my distress I called upon the Lord, And cried out to my God; He heard my voice from His temple, And my cry came before Him, even to His ears. Then the earth shook and trembled; The foundations of the hills also quaked and were shaken, Because He was angry. -Psalm 18:6-7, NKJV My God gets … Continue reading “Grateful for God’s Anger!”
As Jesus did.
Forgive as the Lord forgave you. -Colossians 3:13b, NIV How forgiving was Jesus to the Pharisees? Jesus understood that some people wanted nothing to do with his forgiveness. They were self-righteous, and in their minds, they needed none of his. This is the usual crowd of cheaters. They often behave like Pharisees. Some are especially … Continue reading “As Jesus did.”