And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.” -I Peter 4:8, NKJV Cheaters are “good” at putting together a list of things that they do not like about their spouse. They are doing this to “justify” their infidelity and their abandonment of the marriage. The … Continue reading “What if we made a list, too?!”
Category: Sin
Lies and shame
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. -Ephesians 5:8a, NIV I believe a lie is always present when it comes to shame. Either we are being lied to, or we are living a lie. God did not design us to live in the darkness doing the deeds of the darkness. … Continue reading “Lies and shame”
“It just happened,” says Cheater
“It just happened.” -Cheater This sort of explanation of an affair is a way to avoid responsibility. It is a way to ascribe the affair to causes like blizzards and tsunamis. It just happened. Natural disasters “just happen.” Sin takes an agent. If this was not so, then God would not bother telling us NOT … Continue reading ““It just happened,” says Cheater”
Exposing accepted adultery and divorce “wisdom”
Don’t let anyone capture you with empty philosophies and high-sounding nonsense that come from human thinking and from the spiritual powers of this world, rather than from Christ. -Colossians 2:8, NLT So much advice or counsel in the church on adultery and divorce is “high-sounding nonsense” in my opinion. Most do not approach the topic … Continue reading “Exposing accepted adultery and divorce “wisdom””
Cannot be undone
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV When a spouse decides to commit adultery, the marriage is forever changed. What is done cannot be undone. I believe the natural state of such marriages is one of death. … Continue reading “Cannot be undone”
Treatment on fornication versus adultery in Evangelical-land
Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. -Hebrews 13:4, NKJV I grew up in an evangelical church where I attended youth group in the 90s. “Purity culture” was big in those days for evangelical teens. As an adult, I realize some of my upbringing was not the most helpful. … Continue reading “Treatment on fornication versus adultery in Evangelical-land”
Oh, the self-righteous, religious pricks!
“And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? … Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye…” – Matthew 7:3, 5a, NLT When I was going through my trials, I had no shortage of religious people willing to “help” me see my “sin” or … Continue reading “Oh, the self-righteous, religious pricks!”
Religious behavior does not fool God
For day after day they seek me out; they seem eager to know my ways, as if they were a nation that does what is right and has not forsaken the commands of its God. -Isaiah 58:2, NIV Some cheaters excel at doing things that make them look like “good” Christians. That is part of the trauma … Continue reading “Religious behavior does not fool God”
Teaching “Divorce is sin” enables abuse!
And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also. -Jeremiah 3:8, KJV Pastors, if you are teaching divorce as always an awful sin, you are … Continue reading “Teaching “Divorce is sin” enables abuse!”
Game Film and “Critical Errors” Applied to Cheaters
After a Saturday football game, my college coaches would take the game “film” and grade how each of us–athletes–performed in that contest. One category used in their film grading system was called “critical errors.” This label was reserved for mistakes so big that the mistake caused the play to fail. For an offensive lineman, a … Continue reading “Game Film and “Critical Errors” Applied to Cheaters”