Cheaters are all about their image

“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You are like whitewashed tombs, which look beautiful on the outside but on the inside are full of the bones of the dead and everything unclean.” -Matthew 23:27, NIV Few things are more hypocritical than committing adultery while maintaining one is a “good Christian.” … Continue reading “Cheaters are all about their image”

Fascinating Resource On Religious Leader Manipulations

I enjoy listening to a variety of podcasts when I am running errands and on my work commute. One of the podcasts I enjoy is “The Roys Report.” Julie Roys founded this news outlet reporting on issues within the church. She has been involved in exposing several scandals in the Chicago area including, for example, … Continue reading “Fascinating Resource On Religious Leader Manipulations”

My mistake in re-engaging

The Other Man was discovered. I wrote a letter to my (then) wife letting her know I would not tolerate her cheating anymore. She could either choose to work to prove to me that her cheating days were over, or she could expect me to terminate my relationship–friendship included–with her permanently. Obviously, she chose the … Continue reading “My mistake in re-engaging”

On Being “The Model Divorced”

“Yes, we are divorced. But we’re friends. I understand I made mistakes, too, in our marriage.” – “Model” Divorcee If you do get divorced, I sense this is what people–maybe Christians especially–want to hear. They want a nice narrative where they do not have to pick sides. Maybe some divorcees can become friends with each other after the … Continue reading “On Being “The Model Divorced””

Burning (or Cutting) Conviction!

For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires. -Hebrews 4:12, NLT Sometimes a cheater still has enough of a conscience that confrontation with Bible texts convicts them. It “burns” or … Continue reading “Burning (or Cutting) Conviction!”

“Let not your heart be troubled”–God’s Command

Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. -John 14:27, KJV “Let NOT your heart be troubled…” (Emphasis mine) This is a command from Jesus. A command that implies we have a … Continue reading ““Let not your heart be troubled”–God’s Command”

Only 27 Percent of Protestant Pastors Believe “Adultery” Permanently Disqualifying!

 Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach…. -I Timothy 3:2, NIV (Emphasis mine) LifeWay Research just published a study on Protestant pastor views on restoration of pastors after committing “adultery.” The results are not so surprising to me. Only 27% are willing to … Continue reading “Only 27 Percent of Protestant Pastors Believe “Adultery” Permanently Disqualifying!”

Just because they say so…

Public Service Announcement: Just because a cheater says so… …does not make it so! Remember that you are hearing words coming from a proven liar. That is what all cheaters are: proven liars. When they say things about you and your marriage, you have to discount that with this fact about their deficient character. They … Continue reading “Just because they say so…”

Cheater-Speak: “I had to….”

“I had to find someone else, because you never were interested in sex with me,” says the cheater. “I had to cheat with him, because that was the only way I could get your attention,” says the cheater. “I had to ____ (fill in the blank),” says the cheater. The “I had to …” lie … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I had to….””