“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.” -Matthew 7:21, NIV Confessing “Christian” Cheaters One of the most confusing part of dealing with adultery and general infidelity discoveries is how they do not fit with the … Continue reading “A confessing Christian cheater may not be a Christian”
Category: Sin
Did you love her?
“Did you ever love her?” OR “Did you ever love him?” This is such a simply stated question. However, it is far from simple when applied to a cheater. Looking back on the marriage and how it ended, it is complicated. How can you say you ever loved someone who revealed they were utterly different … Continue reading “Did you love her?”
Reconciliation means to friendships, NOT marriage necessarily!
And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. – 2 Corinthians 5:19b, NIV Reconciled to friendship, NOT marriage! What often bothers me about Christians talking about marriages ravaged by adultery is how “reconciliation” is thrown about as the same thing as marriage restoration. It is not. A former couple could experience true reconciliation … Continue reading “Reconciliation means to friendships, NOT marriage necessarily!”
Religious lectures from cheater apologists
“But you have turned from the way and by your teaching have caused many to stumble; you have violated the covenant with Levi,” says the Lord Almighty. -Malachi 2:8, NIV More than one of my (now) ex-wife’s family members took it upon themselves to lecture me about how I needed to be a better Christian husband. … Continue reading “Religious lectures from cheater apologists”
Reacting to issues versus responding to issues
A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back. -Proverbs 29:11, NKJV I have little doubt cheaters have issues. They may even have some legitimate complaints about us, their spouses. However, these legitimate issues are not excuses to sin. God does not give us permission to sin. What many people get wrong with … Continue reading “Reacting to issues versus responding to issues”
An emotional affair give away
“Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” -Matthew 19:6, NLT When your wife is more concerned about the opinion of her male “friend” than she is of her husband, you can be assured she has crossed over to an emotional affair, minimally. This is … Continue reading “An emotional affair give away”
Just keep your word.
Who may enter your presence on your holy hill? … Those who despise flagrant sinners, and honor the faithful followers of the Lord, and keep their promises even when it hurts. -Psalm 15:1b, 4, NLT A certain behavior really angers me. It is when people tell me one thing and do the opposite. It is something … Continue reading “Just keep your word.”
Falwell Affair News
Rueters dropped the explosive allegations that Jerry Falwell Jr. and Becki Falwell, his wife, were involved sexually with a young man, Giancarlo Granda. The specifics of the allegation include sexual relationships with Becki Falwell while Jerry Falwall Jr. watched. This happened allegedly over the years of 2012 to 2018. Jerry Falwall Jr confirmed in the … Continue reading “Falwell Affair News”
Cheater-Speak: “I was afraid. That is why I lied to you.”
“I was afraid of your reaction. That is why I lied.” -Cheater Like a child who did wrong, a cheater sometimes feigns fear in order to avoid accountability.* They equate a righteous anger response with reason or justification to lie to the spouse they have wronged. It is not godly. It is another reason I … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I was afraid. That is why I lied to you.””
Time to take adultery seriously. God does.
“If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NLT This verse says it all. It teaches us that God viewed adultery as a marriage ending sin. How so? God required the adulterous spouse to die in light of said … Continue reading “Time to take adultery seriously. God does.”