“You shall not commit adultery.” -Exodus 20:14, NIV (from The Ten Commandments) Fact: Cheaters are marriage flunkies. One of the most basic lessons in Christian marriage is adhering to this classic and consistent prohibition regarding sex with marriage outsiders. Cheaters have–spectacularly, in some cases–flunked this most basic of marriage lessons. Yet for some reason, … Continue reading “Fact: Cheaters flunked marriage.”
Category: Theology of divorce
Were not looking for it!
Even when filing the divorce papers, the faithful spouse really did not choose this outcome. What they chose was a marriage free of infidelity! The filing of the papers was the choice they had left after the choice of the cheater to destroy the agreed upon future by being unfaithful. The good options–the preferred option–was … Continue reading “Were not looking for it!”
Beware of sand foundations!
But anyone who hears my teaching and doesn’t obey it is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand. -Matthew 7:26, NLT We all know it is a sand foundation. This is the truth of trying to rebuild a marriage with the infidelity left unaddressed or treated as a “minor” problem. The marriage … Continue reading “Beware of sand foundations!”
Letter re:Doug Weiss’ Divorce
Recently, Chump Lady posted on Doug Weiss’ divorce and then sudden engagement to Joni Lamb (of the Christian Daystar broadcasting fame). Dr. Doug Weiss treats “sex addiction” and claims to be in recovery from sex addiction for over 30 years. While this is important information to know for context, this post is not so much … Continue reading “Letter re:Doug Weiss’ Divorce”
Initially ashamed….
I remember when I first started dating, again… My profile didn’t have info about being divorced. I felt ashamed of this. Soon, though, I realized that I was wasting time not having it posted. So, I changed it. People will sort themselves when we show who we are. We do not have to be ashamed … Continue reading “Initially ashamed….”
“Starter Marriage” Nonsense
And he said, “‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’” -Matthew 19:5, NLT When my first marriage was falling apart, I remember someone bringing up the idea of “starter marriages.” The idea is one where the first marriage is simply … Continue reading ““Starter Marriage” Nonsense”
Impulsive divorce? Hardly.
And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce…. -Jeremiah 3:8a, KJV What I find curious in cases with adultery is how the Christian community is so quick to press against the faithful spouse choosing divorce as if this … Continue reading “Impulsive divorce? Hardly.”
No hope? Self-fulfilling cheater prophecy.
“I just do not have any hope for our marriage.” -Cheater Ironically, faithful spouses are usually the ones who are accused of giving up on the marriage. The reality is that the cheater gave up on the marriage the moment they decided to violate their marriage vows. Plus, many of us–I suspect–sat in the counseling … Continue reading “No hope? Self-fulfilling cheater prophecy.”
Exposing accepted adultery and divorce “wisdom”
Don’t let anyone capture you with empty philosophies and high-sounding nonsense that come from human thinking and from the spiritual powers of this world, rather than from Christ. -Colossians 2:8, NLT So much advice or counsel in the church on adultery and divorce is “high-sounding nonsense” in my opinion. Most do not approach the topic … Continue reading “Exposing accepted adultery and divorce “wisdom””
The way things are taught in church you would think…
14 Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV You would think… …this verse said: “Thou shalt not divorce your spouse.” But it does NOT! The Bible does not treat divorce like it treats adultery. Our Ten Commandments doe NOT prohibit divorce. They prohibit adultery. This is clear. However, you would think Bible-believing pastors were preaching … Continue reading “The way things are taught in church you would think…”