Our days on earth are like grass; like wildflowers, we bloom and die. -Psalm 103:15, NLT How fleeting and short life is. This was impressed upon me recently when a good friend was killed with his wife in a car accident. We do not know when our final day is. A cheater lives as if … Continue reading “Life legacy and fleeting nature of our lives”
Category: Theology of divorce
When cheaters see no problem…
Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.* -Matthew 7:5, NIV If your cheater does not understand and affirm that the presence of the Other Man/Other Woman is a problem, then your marriage is doomed without any … Continue reading “When cheaters see no problem…”
Behave like Abraham?
Then God said, “Take your son, your only son, whom you love—Isaac—and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on a mountain I will show you.” -Genesis 22:2, NIV Is this advice all godly parents ought to follow, literally? No. I raise this absurd example to highlight how foolish it is … Continue reading “Behave like Abraham?”
Unfinished Cheater Business
23 “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.” -Matthew 5:23-24, NIV When a cheater divorces and goes on to remarry, … Continue reading “Unfinished Cheater Business”
Yes, they did.
–Did your spouse try to blame you for their cheating? Maybe they called it a “cry for help?” –Did your spouse live a double life of lies for months if not years of hidden cheating? –Did your spouse attend multiple marriage counseling while maintaining a secret affair partner the whole time? I do not know … Continue reading “Yes, they did.”
Do not wish the pain of adultery discovery on anyone!
While some pastors will talk about not wishing divorce on anyone, I think that is a late wish. The problem is the adultery and its accompanying lies. Sometimes a situation is only remedied through a hard and painful action. Surgery requires cutting into flesh. It is bloody, painful, and costly. Of course, I would wish … Continue reading “Do not wish the pain of adultery discovery on anyone!”
Divorce is NOT “of the Devil!”
“Divorce is of the Devil!” -Christian leader I want to begin this post by owning that this was probably how I would have talked about divorce prior to my own experience with it. My Christian background was very anti-divorce. This made my situation with my first (now ex) wife even more painful than it had to … Continue reading “Divorce is NOT “of the Devil!””
Religious cheaters want both!
You cry out, “Why doesn’t the Lord accept my worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the Lord witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows. -Malachi 2:14, NLT Religious cheaters are not satisfied with simply cheating. … Continue reading “Religious cheaters want both!”
Like a rebelling teenager or toddler!
Did you ever feel like the big, bad parent with your cheater? I think sometimes some engage in cheating behavior as a way to try and resolve family issues (non-therapist speaking here). They did not feel safe to do that with their mother or father. So, the faithful spouse gets all their rebellion in its … Continue reading “Like a rebelling teenager or toddler!”
Tip of the “Cheating Iceberg” is enough!
When dealing with a cheater who has lived a double life for months (or years), sometimes the iceberg is a huge one. You may only know a very little of what the cheater actually did. That was enough to sink the marriage. Sometimes, I believe, God spares us the pain of learning all the cheating details. He … Continue reading “Tip of the “Cheating Iceberg” is enough!”