“Sure, I cheated. But that is not what killed our marriage. You…” -Cheater Is someone who shoots and kills a cancer patient less of a murderer because his victim had cancer? Of course, not. Generally speaking, we do not waste weeks and months trying to figure out what killed someone when they obviously bled out … Continue reading “Thinking Critically: Is someone less culpable for murder if their victim has cancer?”
Category: Theology of divorce
Divorce is partial soul amputation.
‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. -Matthew 19:5b-6a, NIV Like animal who gnaws off a limb to escape from a trap and certain death, a faithful spouse leaves part … Continue reading “Divorce is partial soul amputation.”
Because of, NOT in spite of, my divorce…
The path of the righteous is like the morning sun, shining ever brighter till the full light of day. -Proverbs 4:18-19, NIV Within evangelical Christianity, the sense I often get is how any blessing following divorce comes in spite of as opposed to because of getting divorced. Such sense is all a part of church leaders making divorce the … Continue reading “Because of, NOT in spite of, my divorce…”
Does through ‘better or worse’ include infidelity?
“If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NLT Does staying married through ‘better or worse’ include through infidelity? Short answer: No. Here’s the longer, biblical reasons I say that… I quote Leviticus 20:10 not to suggest that we … Continue reading “Does through ‘better or worse’ include infidelity?”
Choosing Divorce Is Not Vengeful
And Joseph her husband, being a righteous man and not wanting to disgrace her, planned [to divorce her] secretly. -Matthew 1:19, NASB (footnoted alternate translation used in brackets) Do we consider a rape victim “hurt and vengeful” for choosing to have her rapist prosecuted for his crime? I wouldn’t. It is a matter of justice … Continue reading “Choosing Divorce Is Not Vengeful”
Disagreeing with “Duck Dynasty” Al and Lisa Robertson on Divorce
A reader sent me an article promoting a book by Al and Lisa Robertson of “Duck Dynasty” fame. In the article “Al and Lisa Robertson: Rebuilding After an Affair,” the story of Lisa’s repeated infidelity is shared along with their advice to couples to remain married even after adultery. The article bothered the reader sending … Continue reading “Disagreeing with “Duck Dynasty” Al and Lisa Robertson on Divorce”
Divorce is a moral decision.
He told them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery against her. And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits adultery.” -Mark 10:11-12, NLT While I believe the Bible gives grounds for divorcing cheaters (see Mt 19:9), I also believe it cuts off the option of divorce … Continue reading “Divorce is a moral decision.”
My Thoughts On Barnabas Piper’s Podcast Interview
The Wartburg Watch posted another* piece on Barnabas Piper’s divorce as he continues to talk about it (click here). Barnabas Piper is the son of celebrity pastor, John Piper. *Previously, I wrote a piece on this situation as well (click here). In this post, I want to address to things from a recent podcast where … Continue reading “My Thoughts On Barnabas Piper’s Podcast Interview”
Not All Doom and Gloom
The Lord blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. -Job 42:12a, NIV With all the fear-mongering that happens in evangelical Christian circles, one might think divorce dooms you to a life of misery. Or… I think this might be worse–it means you will always have a second-class marriage if you … Continue reading “Not All Doom and Gloom”
John Piper’s Son, Barnabas, Divorces
Eleven and a half years- that’s how long it lasted. Eleven and half years of marriage and then gone….When she told me she was finished it was like a knock at the door from the police chaplain – utter shock, not real, numbness, anger, fear. -Barnabas Piper, “When A Marriage Dies,” Published January 10, … Continue reading “John Piper’s Son, Barnabas, Divorces”