Blogging On Divorce AND Adultery

  “As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: ‘Be holy, because I am holy.’” – 1 Peter 1:14-16, NIV   Some might be disappointed that … Continue reading “Blogging On Divorce AND Adultery”

So is my ex correct in saying that God forgives him, so it is all ok

Dear Divorce Minister,   My ex-husband, who has been having an affair for two years, tells me that he has prayed to God and everything is ok between him and God. He continues to go to Church each Sunday with our daughter (nobody there knows he has been committing adultery and I go to a … Continue reading “So is my ex correct in saying that God forgives him, so it is all ok”

PART 2: I Disagree With John Piper On Adultery/Divorce

<<<<<NOTICE: A CONTINUATION FROM YESTERDAY’S POST [CLICK HERE TO READ YESTERDAY’S POST]>>>>> Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV     With the above Scripture in mind, I want to share some thoughts on the damage John … Continue reading “PART 2: I Disagree With John Piper On Adultery/Divorce”

I Disagree With John Piper On Adultery/Divorce

Pastor John Piper is a major figure in Reformed, Evangelical Christianity in the United States. He hails from Minnesota. Having heard him preach myself years ago, I would say that he is a very gifted communicator, and I do not doubt his passion for Christ. He strikes me as a man who is sincere about … Continue reading “I Disagree With John Piper On Adultery/Divorce”

You Don’t Have To Agree

Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God,so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly … Continue reading “You Don’t Have To Agree”

My Focus Is Souls and Holiness

While I dearly hope some of the tough love counsel I share here saves marriages, I do not see that as my job or calling. I am a pastor, and my calling is to feed the sheep. I am called to soul care. Marriages will not exist in the Heaven (Mt 22:30). But souls will. … Continue reading “My Focus Is Souls and Holiness”

Why The Adultery Focus On Divorce Minister

With so many divorces happening via “no fault” divorce laws today, it might seem strange to focus on adultery when talking about divorce. I take this objection or concern as an opportunity to explain my blog’s focus and reasoning behind it: 1. I focus on divorce and adultery because that is how Jesus approached the subject … Continue reading “Why The Adultery Focus On Divorce Minister”

Divorce Is No More A Sin Than Being Angry

“‘In your anger do not sin”” -Ephesians 4:26a & Psalm 4:4a, NIV. “Because Joseph her husband was a righteous man and did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.” – Matthew 1:19, NIV.   Context matters greatly in both divorce and issues of anger. In and … Continue reading “Divorce Is No More A Sin Than Being Angry”

Failed Marriage, I Think Not

“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” -Hebrews 13:4, NIV “The Marriage Failed.” Yeah, right! Today, I am writing about a certain psycho-babble used to help everyone avoid unpleasant discussions surrounding divorce. “The marriage failed.” It tried very hard…poor thing…but ultimately … Continue reading “Failed Marriage, I Think Not”

Lock the Doors, Grieve the Death

“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted And saves those who are crushed in spirit.”  -Psalm 34:18, NASB Metaphors, while being imperfect approximations, often can help us grasp difficult and complex truths conveying both intellectual and emotional freight with vivid imagery. Here’s my shot on explaining by metaphor why focusing on forgiveness first after adultery is cruel: Imagine you … Continue reading “Lock the Doors, Grieve the Death”