“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.”
-Matthew 7:21, NIV
Confessing “Christian” Cheaters
One of the most confusing part of dealing with adultery and general infidelity discoveries is how they do not fit with the person involved. You cannot make the two match–i.e. the cheating and the person’s confession of following Christ.
I never would have dated–let alone married–my first wife if I had ever doubted her commitment to following Christ as Lord.
So, you can imagine how disorienting the whole infidelity discovery experience was for me. It was doubly so as my (now ex) wife and her supporters enjoyed claiming Christian commitments while the lies and adultery continued.
Without a strong and real relationship with Jesus, I do not think my faith would have survived such hypocrisy and wickedness. In fact, I am convinced I would have taken my life without my Jesus and His sweet Spirit with me during the darkest days.
My point in writing this is to highlight Jesus’ own words. It is clear from this verse from Matthew that claiming Jesus is not enough to make one a Christian. Actions must follow words.
It is not enough to claim Jesus as Lord but then live as if He is not!
Your cheater and their cohorts might claim Jesus as Lord. However, the truth Jesus shares here is that He is not their Lord if they do not obey Him. As the saying goes: Talk is cheap.
This is what I’ve struggled with! The man that I thought was a good Christian man before all of this happened! I know that we can make big mistakes as Christians but you know. I have a question and if you can’t do this, I understand. I would like to send you the link where this woman has preached in her small church 3 times starting with Nov, one I think in may and one recently. All of her sermons sound like she is trying to get over something. I was wondering if you could take the time to listen or your Mrs. and tell me what you think. I could send them privately. After having a conversation with him just last week, he finally admitted that she must have liked him! This….. after denying an affair still. I will understand if you can’t. You will have to answer me on here. Thanks.
To me the Jesus cheater ranks #1 for being the worst. My xh was raised by parents who were ministers, xh went to bible college, was very involved in church, managed a church camp for a few years with me and most people thought he walked on water! I met him in church after a job transfer, we married 3 months later (saving ourselves for marriage). I had not one reason to think bad of him, until a few days after our 3rd baby was born. For some odd reason he chose this moment to confess infidelity to me early in our marriage. We had only been married about 5 years. Like a good Christian wife I forgave and moved forward with my broken heart. Divorced him after 32 years when I realized the man I married …. never existed. My adult kids were so shocked they no longer attend church, my unsaved family felt like his prayers and life and preaching about God all the time were a joke now. He mocked God and continues to believe that God “knows he struggles” with porn, lying, cheating etc. Sadly the church counselors were not helpful to me ever, bc they seem to take the faithful spouse and make it all about forgiveness, reconciliation (God hates divorce) not being mad, blah blah. Finding DM is what gave me the courage to get divorced. When my xh wanted to be friends …. I declined and told him he wasn’t a committed husband why would I want his friendship.