Happy New Year! This is the day I usually post a little about who comes to my digital shores over the year. It helps to know that this ministry is touching lives, and those who come are far from alone. In 2021–even with my big blog pause in December–the blog nearly made it to 100,000 … Continue reading “Happy New Year! Divorce Minister Blog going strong in 2021.”
Author: Divorce Minister
Natural time to look to the future and the “new things” God is doing!
18 Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old. 19 Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert. -Isaiah 43:18-19, KJV I love history. Maybe that love the past and … Continue reading “Natural time to look to the future and the “new things” God is doing!”
Just because it does not look good now… Do NOT give up hope!
To all who mourn in Israel… …a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair. -ISAIAH 61:3a, b, NLT When my divorce was fresh, I remember feeling great sadness over the thought of losing the opportunity to be a father. That was six years ago.* It was a dark … Continue reading “Just because it does not look good now… Do NOT give up hope!”
Despair is a liar!
And this hope is not a disappointing fantasy, because we can now experience the endless love of God cascading into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who lives in us! -Romans 5:5, TPT Despair lies all the time. It tells you to live in fear and give up all hope of a better future. … Continue reading “Despair is a liar!”
Cheater Martyr
“Let’s separate. I think that would be best for us both to heal,” says Cheater. Some cheaters will attempt to cloak their sins in robes of nobility. They will profess mutual benefit while using such as a cover to betray they spouse. That is just how some cheaters “roll.” They play the long-suffering martyr. However, … Continue reading “Cheater Martyr”
“C’mon, man, you MUST have known!” says Anxious Outsider.
“You HAD TO know he was cheating on you!” -Anxious Outsider “Come on, man! You must have known she was cheating on you!” -Anxious Outsider Outsiders might feel entitled to give their advice unsolicited. They might feel threatened by their vulnerability and trot out these “gems.” My response to such madness: “I don’t know … Continue reading ““C’mon, man, you MUST have known!” says Anxious Outsider.”
Forgiveness does not work if the person won’t stay to receive it
Forgive as the Lord forgave you. -Colossians 3:13b, NIV It is hard to give someone a gift when they are running away from you. This is the picture of someone who is unwilling to repent and turn to you for the gift of forgiveness. They are not in a position to receive the gift. … Continue reading “Forgiveness does not work if the person won’t stay to receive it”
Darkness cannot overcome Light!
And this Light never fails to shine through darkness— Light that darkness could not overcome. -John 1:5, TPT Sometimes we need reminders. When we are surrounded by the darkness, it is good to remember that God’s light overcomes the darkness. Always. The darkness does not win. It cannot overcome the light. This is the hope … Continue reading “Darkness cannot overcome Light!”
The merciful gift of divorce.
I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries. -Jeremiah 3:8, NIV I am grateful for the merciful gift of divorce. The mercy is for the faithful spouse. They are set free from the destructive path the cheater is hell-bent to follow to their ultimate spiritual destruction (see Hebrews … Continue reading “The merciful gift of divorce.”
Divorce grief and the community
Divorce impacts a community. Like the sin of adultery, it is not a private affair (see Deut. 22:22). The divorce hits the whole network of relationships. It is painful to face the reality that a couple is no longer a couple. This is doubly so when you like and connected with both spouses. This way of … Continue reading “Divorce grief and the community”