When a Christian counselor or pastor chooses to treat the ending of the affair as a secondary issue, you can be assured they are not equipped to deal with the situation in a godly matter. Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the … Continue reading “If verifying the affairs(s) are over isn’t first priority…”
Author: Divorce Minister
Might have wasted more years!
In his mercy, God knew I probably would have held onto my first marriage well beyond what was good for me. So, my ex filed on me, and I decided fighting the divorce was not worth it. I was not going to fight against a divorce that a cheater was seeking. That was her choice–yet … Continue reading “Might have wasted more years!”
Fun post about my hobby
Today, I registered for my first powerlifting meet. It is in Iowa this coming July. I never would have believed I’d be doing this if you told me in high school. What I mean by that is lifting the sort of weights I am working on in gear. Those numbers seem mind-blowing from the perspective … Continue reading “Fun post about my hobby”
How good are you at letting Jesus’ love in?
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” -John 13:34, NIV How good are you in letting in Jesus’ love? I think this is the question when it comes to spiritual health. We were made for love as God is love (see I John 4:16). … Continue reading “How good are you at letting Jesus’ love in?”
When they are more concerned about how you found out…
Pro-Tip: When the cheater is more concerned about how you found out than the damaged they did to you, then you know they are not remorseful. This is the behavior of someone who is looking for the source of the leaked information. People ask such questions to continue their behavior. They are looking to plug … Continue reading “When they are more concerned about how you found out…”
Unwanted (at the time) path
“…when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go.” -John 21:18b, NIV Unfortunately, I was the first. Somehow, my huge family had never experienced a divorce on either side of the immediate family. But I became the first … Continue reading “Unwanted (at the time) path”
Lying lifestyle spiritual problem for cheaters
19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved. -John 3:19-20, KJV I have a theory about why some cheaters refuse to … Continue reading “Lying lifestyle spiritual problem for cheaters”
God did NOT send the Other Woman or Other Man to your spouse!
God is never tempted to do wrong, and he never tempts anyone else. -James 1:13b, NLT God did not send the Other Woman (OW) or Other Man (OM) into your spouse’s life. It is sad that this even needs to be stated. However, I am sure plenty of readers here have heard their cheater try … Continue reading “God did NOT send the Other Woman or Other Man to your spouse!”
Let the cheater go!
But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. -I Corinthians 7:15, KJV Let the cheater leave! If a cheater is hell-bent on denying Christ by their actions, let them. This is on them. I see this … Continue reading “Let the cheater go!”
Then it ALL started to make sense…
Relief. The months of stone-cold or downright cruel responses. Warmth disappearing overnight like a Minnesotan May blizzard. It all started to make sense. I wasn’t imagining things. The Other Man. He existed. Had existed for months! This is one of the strangest and most surreal parts of discovering infidelity. The moment of confirmation is not only … Continue reading “Then it ALL started to make sense…”