You need to know that Alexander,the jeweler, has done me great harm. May our Lord give him what he deserves for all he has done. -2 Timothy 4:14, TPT “Are you praying for her (him)?” asks a concerned Christian. This is the “magic bullet” of spiritual healing. Maybe you heard of it? The idea is if you pray … Continue reading “Another “Christian” piece of advice…”
Author: Divorce Minister
A forgiveness related hope
When Joseph’s brothers saw that their father was dead, they said, “What if Joseph holds a grudge against us and pays us back for all the wrongs we did to him?” -Genesis 50:15, NIV His brothers literally sold him into slavery and led their father to believe he was dead. Joseph was truly WRONGED by his … Continue reading “A forgiveness related hope”
Judgment can be good, very good!
12 What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? 13 God will judge those outside. -I Corinthians 5:12-13a, NIV Theologically, I am not in the camp of “never” judge another “Christian.” This passage out of I Corinthians plainly exposes such a position as not proper among New … Continue reading “Judgment can be good, very good!”
Thou shalt not commit adultery period!
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV I wonder how this commandment has become second fiddle to couples’ counseling “wisdom” for so many pastors. So much time goes into the “why” of the cheating and little time is spent on pointing out the willful nature of the sin. In other words, pastors can be … Continue reading “Thou shalt not commit adultery period!”
Why keep blogging about taking adultery seriously?
He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God. -Micah 6:8, NIV Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously is an online ministry born from my personal experience and a pastoral need. That need is still there. … Continue reading “Why keep blogging about taking adultery seriously?”
Why did you choose to sin?
For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT “Why did you choose to sin?” This is the question for the cheater. Until they understand the answer to this, they cannot repent. The … Continue reading “Why did you choose to sin?”
Please understand adultery traumatizes the faithful spouse!
Adultery is soul rape. It is incredibly traumatizing. Imagine trying to figure out whether or not your life is about to end due to your spouse picking up a deadly sexually transmitted disease and passing it along to you (without your knowledge)–by the way, please get tested, faithful spouse, if you have not already! How … Continue reading “Please understand adultery traumatizes the faithful spouse!”
Cultivate the discipline of gratitude
Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” – Genesis 3:1, NIV As a hospice chaplain*, I see many different sorts of people on a daily basis. Often times, my … Continue reading “Cultivate the discipline of gratitude”
Powerful finality
It felt different when it was final. The divorce. Up until then, I think I was still praying for an repentance miracle. I got the papers and then I knew it was truly over. It just felt different. My recommendation is to plan that day. Make sure you have some friends or a friend to … Continue reading “Powerful finality”
Power not marriage
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. -Ephesians 5:21, NIV I am convinced some cheaters treat marriage issues as power struggles. They refuse to submit to their spouse as they find it offensive to actually “lose” in any way. To them, the idea of humbling themselves and truly repenting is repulsive. This is why … Continue reading “Power not marriage”