Author: Divorce Minister

Happy Valentine’s Day to those whose love was true!

To the faithful you show yourself faithful…. -Psalm 18:25a, NIV Happy Valentine’s Day to the faithful! Even though today may be a hard day for many of us, know that God loves you and honors your faithfulness. He is a “good bet!” Focus on those who truly love you on this day is my encouragement. … Continue reading “Happy Valentine’s Day to those whose love was true!”

Choosing to divorce a cheater is NOT vengeful!

And Joseph her husband, being a righteous man and not wanting to disgrace her, planned [to divorce her] secretly. -Matthew 1:19, NASB (footnoted alternate translation used in brackets) Do we consider a rape victim “hurt and vengeful” for choosing to have her rapist prosecuted for his crime? I wouldn’t. It is a matter of justice … Continue reading “Choosing to divorce a cheater is NOT vengeful!”

What about the damage to the cheater’s reputation?

“Keep it as quiet as possible. Just think about the damage done to other relationships if you tell them she cheated on you [aka the truth].” -Standard (Awful) Advice Such concern for the damage of relationships is too late in coming. Actions reveal character. Character often shapes reputation. If a cheater wanted a good reputation, … Continue reading “What about the damage to the cheater’s reputation?”

PSA: Do not send a list of why you want her (or him)!

Public Service Announcement (PSA): Do not send your cheater a list of reasons you want to remain married to them! Yes, I learned this one the hard way. Such a list only invites entitled contempt from the cheater. The last thing a cheater needs is someone stroking their ego. They already think they are awesome–even … Continue reading “PSA: Do not send a list of why you want her (or him)!”

Commentary on cheaters claiming to be Christians

“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven….Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’ -Matthew 7:21, 23, NIV Anyone who continues to live in him will … Continue reading “Commentary on cheaters claiming to be Christians”

Grandiose Martyr Cheater

Then God said, “Take your son, your only son, whom you love–Isaac–and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on a mountain I will show you.” -Genesis 22:2, NIV Leave it to cheaters to pretend they are doing something noble while acting treacherously and wickedly towards their spouse. They … Continue reading “Grandiose Martyr Cheater”

Correcting cheap cheater forgiveness teachings

Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV “God forgives me. So what’s your problem?!” -Cheater Does … Continue reading “Correcting cheap cheater forgiveness teachings”

David Clarke, Ph.D. Online Resource

While wondering on the internet looking for resources from David Clarke, PhD, I stumbled upon his website (click here). These past few days I have been listening to his podcast. He has some good things to say in those podcasts. Clarke is not a wimpy Christian counselor. He does not let cheaters off the hook … Continue reading “David Clarke, Ph.D. Online Resource”

NOT hating adultery is sin!

Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. -Romans 12:9b, NIV “If a man is discovered committing adultery, both he and the woman must die. In this way, you will purge Israel of such evil.” -Deuteronomy 22:22, NLT Hate gets such an undeserved reputation among Christians. Sometimes the right thing to do is to hate. Evil … Continue reading “NOT hating adultery is sin!”