“‘If a man commits adultery with another man’s wife—with the wife of his neighbor—both the adulterer and the adulteress are to be put to death.’” -Leviticus 20:10, NIV “Don’t throw away your marriage over this,” the well-meaning pastor tells the sobbing faithful spouse upon discovery of the adulterous double life of their spouse. He misses … Continue reading “Awful Advice: “Don’t throw away your marriage over this!””
Author: Divorce Minister
Rejection happened to Jesus, too!
O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, thou that killest the prophets, and stonest them which are sent unto thee, how often would I have gathered thy children together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings, and ye would not! -Matthew 23:37, KJV What did Jesus do that “made” Jerusalem reject him? Nothing. The point of this is to highlight … Continue reading “Rejection happened to Jesus, too!”
Is remarriage after divorce adultery?
Comment: Thank you for your blog – it has been so encouraging to me as a Christian walking through the pain of what appears to be an impending divorce following my unrepentant husband’s adultery. I was wondering what the Bible suggests about remarriage in such cases (I have been taught the traditional viewpoint that any … Continue reading “Is remarriage after divorce adultery?”
Let them (be wrong).
Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! -Isaiah 5:20, KJV Part of the injustice faithful spouses often experience is a community of people–even confessing Christians–who will not accept what happened or do and then … Continue reading “Let them (be wrong).”
The Joy of Independence
Dealing with an (unwanted) divorce can leave one focusing on losses… …yet there are gains as well. On this July 4th, I want to highlight the gains of independence. I remember enjoying that independence after divorce. It was a truly nice gift. Enjoying our independence following a divorce from a cheater is an important step … Continue reading “The Joy of Independence”
Adultery is not self-care; it’s self-damage.
So they are no longer two, but one flesh. -Matthew 19:6a, NIV The cheater approaching the affair as “self-care” or something “finally, for ME!” is self-deceived. You cannot sin against the marriage without also sinning against yourself. This is what the Judeo-Christian concept of marriage teaches us. The marriage partners are ONE. An affair certainly is … Continue reading “Adultery is not self-care; it’s self-damage.”
Testimonies of blessed lives post-divorce
The Lord blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. -Job 42:12, NIV The Church needs to hear stories from divorced faithful spouses who went on to live fulfilling lives after the ending of their marriages. These testimonies are needed for faithful spouses who are trapped in fear. The fear of the spiritually … Continue reading “Testimonies of blessed lives post-divorce”
An adultery victim AND so much more!
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV While adultery victims are not less than victims of their cheaters, they are also more. They are FAITHFUL SPOUSES! SURVIVORS. Just because we have been cheated upon does not mean … Continue reading “An adultery victim AND so much more!”
Hope for cheaters
“Even now,” declares the Lord, “return to me with all your heart, with fasting and weeping and mourning.” Rend your heart and not your garments. -Joel 2:12-13a, NIV What is described here in Joel is repentance. The prophet talks about genuine remorse or grief over wrong doing and not simply outward displays–like tearing “rending” one’s clothes. That is … Continue reading “Hope for cheaters”
A stupid thing Christians say: “But you made it easy for her to cheat on you.”
“Sure, she had an affair. But you made it easy for her to cheat on you.” -A Stupid Thing Christians Say I have heard or read a version of this statement more than once. It seems like a common mindset some have–even pastors–towards faithful spouses. It is a subtle blame-shift (or not so subtle). For … Continue reading “A stupid thing Christians say: “But you made it easy for her to cheat on you.””