Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! – I Corinthians 6:15b, NLT When someone is a cheater, they are also an abuser. You cannot have one without the other. Soul rape is abusive. I am astounded by how cheating and adultery are too often treated … Continue reading “Reminder: Cheating is abuse!”
Author: Divorce Minister
Striking when most vulnerable
Judah hath dealt treacherously, and an abomination is committed in Israel and in Jerusalem; for Judah hath profaned the holiness of the Lord which he loved, and hath married the daughter of a strange god. -Malachi 2:11, KJV A sadly common phenomenon in many infidelity stories is how the cheater discards the faithful spouse precisely while the … Continue reading “Striking when most vulnerable”
Hate adultery, NOT divorce!
Declaring a hatred of divorce is akin to declaring a hatred of amputation. Healthy people do not go around hoping to get an amputation. However, a doctor might suggest an amputation to stop an infection from killing them. Does it make sense to tell that patient, “I hate amputation?” Divorce is an unfortunately necessary procedure … Continue reading “Hate adultery, NOT divorce!”
Will not rebuild
“Even if she cheated on me, I would still stay with her and try to make the marriage work,” says faithful spouse. “You’d just hold that over her head forever,” replies cheater apologist. When this is the mentality or response from the cheater side, you know the marriage is done. This sort of response exposes … Continue reading “Will not rebuild”
Never the true focus of their affection
I recently attended a conference where the speaker, Pastor Joel Brooks, said something that got me thinking. He was talking about the difference between the two kingdoms: God’s and Satan’s kingdoms. In particular, he pointed out ways humans engage in behavior that is opposite love. In one of the contrasts he drew, Pastor Brooks shared … Continue reading “Never the true focus of their affection”
Sweet, sticky lies
At some point, I believe our cheating (ex) spouses partnered with lies. Some became consumed by them and lost all sensitivity to truth and reality. These were sweet, sticky lies. They were demonic lies sold to them to justify their sins. Sadly, our cheaters failed to resist them. In fact, many of them fully embraced … Continue reading “Sweet, sticky lies”
When living by “Law” is more merciful than “Grace”
If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, NIV When one’s interpretation of “grace” is more strict and less merciful than the plain writing of the “law,” then I suggest something is wrong with … Continue reading “When living by “Law” is more merciful than “Grace””
Emotional Affair Wierdness
Ever experienced a cheater deeply worried about another’s feelings? They are just trying to be a good “hostess.” In their mind, the most important thing is that this “friend” feels comfortable. They want their approval. What is NOT important to this person is how their spouse feels or thinks! This is a tell-tale sign that … Continue reading “Emotional Affair Wierdness”
Keep legacy in mind
And Samuel died; and all the Israelites were gathered together, and lamented him, and buried him in his house at Ramah. -I Samuel 25:1a, KJV When my maternal grandfather died, they shut down his small North Dakotan town to bury him. That’s the sort of impact I hope to have on those around me. I … Continue reading “Keep legacy in mind”
Cheating to “benefit” the marriage!
“I cheated as a cry for help,” says Cheater. “This will just make us better in the end, and you’ll thank me in the end,” says Cheater. A cheater claiming that the cheating will make the marriage better is a very delusion character, indeed! The sad thing is some pastors and therapists will agree with … Continue reading “Cheating to “benefit” the marriage!”