Who may stand in his holy place? Only those whose hands and hearts are pure, who do not worship idols and never tell lies. -Psalm 24:3b-4, NLT What struck me this morning as I read this verse out of the New Living Translation was how seriously God takes lying. Lying is named right next to … Continue reading “Warning to liars”
Author: Divorce Minister
Twisted Accusations
Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! -Isaiah 5:20, KJV Some cheaters will accuse faithful spouses of all sorts of things. They will take things that were done for their benefit and tell a … Continue reading “Twisted Accusations”
God protects…a song to encourage
God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. -Psalm 46:1, KJV I am enjoying the new album put out by Kim Walker-Smith. There’s a song, “Protector,” about God protecting and holding us. It is one my favorites. Enjoy: *A version of this post ran previously (the song is still good).
Triggered: “Open and honest”
“We need to have open and honest communication,” says Cheater. When I hear the phrase “open and honest,” I am slightly triggered. It sends me back to the conflict with my ex-wife as our marriage ended. The words aren’t bad in and of themselves. Such a goal for communication is admirable. We want to be … Continue reading “Triggered: “Open and honest””
Isaiah 54 promises for us
“Fear not; you will no longer live in shame. Don’t be afraid; there is no more disgrace for you.” -Isaiah 54:4a, NLT Can we claim the promises in this chapter even though they are about Israel? Yes. These are words to God’s people. We are God’s people as children of God (see I John 3:1). … Continue reading “Isaiah 54 promises for us”
It burns, burns!
Here is another thing you do. You cover the Lord’s altar with tears, weeping and groaning because he pays no attention to your offerings and doesn’t accept them with pleasure. -Malachi 2:13, NLT It burns, burns! Such is the response of some cheaters when they are confronted with Scripture calling out their sin. They behave … Continue reading “It burns, burns!”
Cheater-Speak: “We got married too young.”
“We just got married too young. That’s why it didn’t work out.” -Cheater I just do not buy the “married too young” explanation for divorce. It is an excuse. This is a tidy lie to cover up for the cheater’s character deficits and to help people avoid feeling uncomfortable in facing the hard truth: The … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “We got married too young.””
Run towards or away?
His wife said, “Still holding on to your precious integrity, are you? Curse God and be done with it!” -Job 2:9, MSG When the calamity of infidelity discovery strikes, we have two option: 1) Allow the sins of “man” drive us away from God with a curse. Or 2) Run to God as our only … Continue reading “Run towards or away?”
Cheating is abuse. It is not morally neutral behavior.
Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! – I Corinthians 6:15b, NLT When someone is a cheater, they are also an abuser. You cannot have one without the other. Soul rape is abusive. I am astounded by how cheating and adultery are too often treated … Continue reading “Cheating is abuse. It is not morally neutral behavior.”
Inquiring Mind: Did you love her?
“Did you ever love her?” OR “Did you ever love him?” This is such a simply stated question. However, it is far from simple when applied to a cheater. Looking back on the marriage and how it ended, it is complicated. How can you say you ever loved someone who revealed they were utterly different … Continue reading “Inquiring Mind: Did you love her?”