Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. -Galatians 6:7, NIV Setting a boundary is NOT about setting a punishment for the other person. The boundary is there to healthfully preserve you from whatever threatens your well-being. It is not a punishment. Rather, the boundary is a step towards … Continue reading “Keeping boundaries is not the same as “punishment””
An evil way to end it…
If a man is discovered committing adultery, both he and the woman must die. In this way, you will purge Israel of such evil. -Deuteronomy 22:22, NLT Cheaters sometimes choose adultery as a way to totally blow up their marriage on the way to abandon their spouse via the divorce discard. In my opinion, … Continue reading “An evil way to end it…”
The grief can be complicated.
Grief hurts. It surprises even years after the loss. You might think you have “dealt with that” only to discover feelings ambush you at some surprise moment. Our culture does not do grief well. Churches can be especially bad on this number. This is particularly true as it comes to the grief associated with a … Continue reading “The grief can be complicated.”
Nine years later… barely a memory!
Yesterday, it would have been nine years since I received word that my divorce was finalized. It nearly went by without my notice. For a moment, I wondered if it had already passed without my notice. Yet, that is all I did–i.e. notice it. This response is one that I could not even imagine nine … Continue reading “Nine years later… barely a memory!”
It is YOUR decision, not your pastor’s!
But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman also commits adultery. -Matthew 5:32, NLT Faithful spouse, you are free to choose divorce over staying in an abusive marriage with a cheater. This is what I see … Continue reading “It is YOUR decision, not your pastor’s!”
Hobby Milestone!
Hobbies are important for self-care. They are especially important while going through stressful times as a healthy release. For me, I am learning the sport of equipped, powerlifting. In particular, I am learning how to do the bench press with equipment. It is a nice physical activity for variety from my more cerebral work as … Continue reading “Hobby Milestone!”
Divorcing a cheater is not an “easy way out!”
Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? -Matthew 7:4, NKJV A faithful spouse choosing to divorce a cheater is not taking the “easy way out!” It is disgusting that a follower of Christ would ever suggest such a thing. They … Continue reading “Divorcing a cheater is not an “easy way out!””
Blog Posting Pausing for DM’s Vacation – November 30th to December 9th
DM is traveling out the country for a few days this December. So, I am going to put the blog posting on pause to enjoy my vacation. The pause is from Tuesday, November 30th through Thursday, December 9th. It is all for a good reason. I am traveling down to South America to meet Munchkin’s … Continue reading “Blog Posting Pausing for DM’s Vacation – November 30th to December 9th”
Grateful for the turnaround!
Back in 2013, I was still coming out of the daze of the discard. By November, I was doing very well, though. I had met Mrs. DM and Munchkin. In a few short months, we would become a family, officially. The turnaround in my life was relatively quick and truly, wonderful! I was reminded of … Continue reading “Grateful for the turnaround!”
Restitution is a true sorry.
Meanwhile, Zacchaeus stood before the Lord and said, “I will give half my wealth to the poor, Lord, and if I have cheated people on their taxes, I will give them back four times as much!” -Luke 19:8, NLT Sorry is a beginning. A true sorry is one backed by actions demonstrating an effort to … Continue reading “Restitution is a true sorry.”