Today, I had a successful meet competing in the bench press. It was my first “raw” meet–meaning without the assistance of a shirt (gear). I hit 185kgs/407.8lbs. It was good for a national record in my federation for my age and size, drug tested. It is a fun hobby. I will be back to my … Continue reading “Successful Lifting Meet”
Big Hobby Day Tomorrow!
Hobbies are important for flourishing and recovering from infidelity trauma. I really encourage you to develop hobbies as you work towards your new life. For me, weight training has always been apart of my life both prior and after my first marriage. This weekend I get to compete in a weight lifting meet. I will … Continue reading “Big Hobby Day Tomorrow!”
Affairs are like chocolate chip cookies
A few months back, I watched a video where the commentator talked about cheating and likened it to cake. I am riffing off that commentary today. Affairs are like walking into the kitchen to find your Cheater holding two chocolate chip cookies…. You say, “You know that you aren’t supposed to be eating chocolate chip … Continue reading “Affairs are like chocolate chip cookies”
Dear DM, What about porn use?
Dear DM, It was a Godsend to come across your blog after as the evangelical Christian community’s biased view of divorce versus adultery is so prevalent, harsh, and unBiblical. Anyway, my current personal situation with marital infidelity is primarily related to decades of unrepentant porn use by my husband that has escalated over the years … Continue reading “Dear DM, What about porn use?”
Laugh with those who laugh
Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. -Romans 12:15, KJV Laugh with those who laugh! I am grateful for the pets in my life. We have a full house of birds and lizards at the present. They bring such joy and laughter to our hearts! Years ago while I was … Continue reading “Laugh with those who laugh”
not willing
“O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the one who kills the prophets and stones those who are sent to her! How often I wanted to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her brood under her wings, but you were not willing!” -Luke 13:34, NKJV Faithful spouses are often reminded of Jesus’ relationship with the Church. This relationship was predated … Continue reading “not willing”
Time for “new thing”
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!” -Isaiah 43:18-19a, NIV Sometimes the marriage is not fixable, and it comes time to focus on a new thing. A cheater who refuses to repent makes a marriage not fixable. It would be unwise to reinvest in a … Continue reading “Time for “new thing””
Cheater-Speak: “We don’t have any money.”
“We don’t have any money,” says Cheater. Then she spends on expensive dining out and travel with her paramour. It was never about the lack of money. The point about saying that you are without money is that they are uninterested in spending money on you and your needs. Their desires and wishes are worth … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “We don’t have any money.””
Abandoning husbands over money
“No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” -Matthew 6:24, NIV 10 Even while we were with you, we gave you this command: “Those unwilling to work will not … Continue reading “Abandoning husbands over money”
Not the role of a spouse
Free Marriage Advice: If you are looking to your spouse to prove that you are lovable, you are looking to the wrong person. When we look to humans to fill a God-shaped hole, we will always be disappointed. Humans were never intended to “fix” us. Only God can satisfy the deepest longings in our souls. … Continue reading “Not the role of a spouse”