“… and I think there is a certain number of practitioners [trauma informed investigators] that The Advocate Group would only accept because it would increase the likelihood that there would be abuse found in their investigation. So, for example, there are people that would say anytime someone in ministry has any form of sexual contact … Continue reading “Eric Volz messed up view on Clergy Sexual Abuse in interview re: IHOPKC”
Author: Divorce Minister
No, God does not expect us to be “friends.”
The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray. -Proverbs 12:26, NIV The beauty of friendship is that we get to CHOOSE who we have as friends! I encourage you to choose friends who behave like friends. And I encourage you to jettison those who refuse to choose between … Continue reading “No, God does not expect us to be “friends.””
Smokescreen: Emotional Affair As “Symptom” Blameshift.
14 Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. 15 These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death. -James 1:14-15, NLT Emotional Affairs (EA) are wrong. They are sin as they are the breach of marriage vows to “forsake all others.” The … Continue reading “Smokescreen: Emotional Affair As “Symptom” Blameshift.”
Encouragement from Psalm 147
He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds. The Lord supports the humble, but he brings the wicked down into the dust. -Psalm 147:3,6, NLT I love how the Psalmist characterizes God. God is both tender to the hurting and strong towards the proud. He is the type who is perfect for a faithful spouse to trust. … Continue reading “Encouragement from Psalm 147”
God cares. Maybe let Him do the worrying?
Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground outside your Father’s care….. So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows. -Matthew 10:29,31, NIV This morning I awoke from an interesting dream. In this dream, I was with family in a large, informal gathering … Continue reading “God cares. Maybe let Him do the worrying?”
Be at peace with your decision.
What we have received is not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, so that we may understand what God has freely given us. -I Corinthians 2:12, NIV While I view divorce as a mercy for faithful spouses, I do not insist on it. I am aware that God calls us to … Continue reading “Be at peace with your decision.”
Can someone be forgiven without repentance? No.
In those days John the Baptist came, preaching in the wilderness of Judea 2 and saying, “Repent, for the kingdom of heaven has come near.” -Matthew 3:1-2, NIV Can someone be forgiven without repentance? I do not think so. If it was otherwise, why did John the Baptist need to preach a message of repentance to prepare the way … Continue reading “Can someone be forgiven without repentance? No.”
Spiritual Abuse and Cheating
“What Is Spiritual Abuse? Any attempt to exert power and control over someone using religion, faith, or beliefs can be spiritual abuse.” –WebMD 7 “The words of a priest’s lips should preserve knowledge of God, and people should go to him for instruction, for the priest is the messenger of the Lord of Heaven’s Armies. 8 But you … Continue reading “Spiritual Abuse and Cheating”
Hurt more hearts than one!
I love an–now–older Country song about dating that highlights how romantic relationships impact the whole family. It is a nice popular cultural corrective to the idea that these relationships do not touch anyone beside the couple. This is especially true when it comes to marriage and divorce. The singer is Ingrid Andress, and her song … Continue reading “Hurt more hearts than one!”
I was interviewed for a podcast! Talking Spiritual Abuse and Divorce.
Earlier this past month, I had the privilege to speak with Tracy Schorn and Sarah Gorrell on Spiritual Abuse and Infidelity for their podcast, Tell Me How You’re Mighty. The interview is now live on YouTube. Here is the (click here).