Bar hopping without you Cheating starts in the heart (see Mark 7:21-23). This is what we know from Jesus’ own teaching on sin. Before the illicit kisses and sex, some cheaters may have engaged in behavior best described as “single” behavior. They went to the bars and welcomed the attention of the opposite sex (if … Continue reading “Bar hopping without you”
Author: Divorce Minister
Allure of Premature Forgiveness
…and if you see him going the wrong direction, cry out and correct him. If there is true repentance on his part, forgive him. -Luke 17:3, TPT What I find interesting is how much advice is given about forgiveness for faithful spouses as if this is the hardest part–convincing faithful spouses to forgive. I don’t … Continue reading “Allure of Premature Forgiveness”
Choose One: Good Christian or Cheater. Not both.
Good Christian or Cheater? You choose. You don’t get both. “Christian” cheaters hate having their infidelity exposed. They despise the inconvenience it causes them. It shatters their image as a “good Christian” for anyone with a modicum of theological sense…as it ought to. The thing is that a cheater must choose between their life of lies and … Continue reading “Choose One: Good Christian or Cheater. Not both.”
Circle of friends
“You could do so much better than him,” says Enabler. It starts with their “friends.” Cheaters often surround themselves with “friends” who are not supportive of their marriage. In fact, they encourage damaging behavior and contempt for the faithful spouse. It should not shock us, faithful spouses, when we learn that these “friends” were covering … Continue reading “Circle of friends”
Obligation to tell
“If you sin by not stepping up and offering yourself as a witness to something you’ve heard or seen in cases of wrongdoing, you’ll be held responsible.” -Leviticus 5:1, MSG Is adultery wrong? Yes, it is sin. So, if you see someone cheating on their spouse, you are obligated to let them know and not … Continue reading “Obligation to tell”
Da Light BURNS!!!
All who do evil hate the light and refuse to go near it for fear their sins will be exposed. -John 3:20, NLT If a cheater has anything of a conscience left, they will be in extreme pain when their actions are exposed for the sin and evil they are. Cheaters committed to their sin … Continue reading “Da Light BURNS!!!”
Cheater-speak: “I’m a good Christian.”
Anyone who continues to live in him will not sin. But anyone who keeps on sinning does not know him or understand who he is. -I John 3:6, NLT “I’m a good Christian,” declares deceived Cheater. Some might make this statement to seek validation from you or others. They are saying it as a test … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “I’m a good Christian.””
Cheater-Speak: “I feel like God is calling me to….”
2 And he said, “Take now thy son, thine only son Isaac, whom thou lovest, and get thee into the land of Moriah; and offer him there for a burnt offering upon one of the mountains which I will tell thee of.” Genesis 22:2, KJV Cheaters are engaging in self-deception when they decide God is calling … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I feel like God is calling me to….””
Forgiveness without admission of wrongdoing?
Peter’s words pierced their hearts, and they said to him and to the other apostles, “Brothers, what should we do?” Peter replied, “Each of you must repent of your sins and turn to God….” -Acts 2:37-38a, NLT Remember how Jesus asked God to forgive those crucifying him from the cross (see Luke 23:34)? These verses … Continue reading “Forgiveness without admission of wrongdoing?”
Pro-Tip: Do not engage with “deserving it” fools
A sage trying to work things out with a fool gets only scorn and sarcasm for his trouble. -Proverbs 29:9, THE MESSAGE Arguing Over Why You “Deserved It” This is a wasted argument. It is like talking with someone with your face still bleeding and them asking you what you did to deserve having your … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Do not engage with “deserving it” fools”