Blessed is the man Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, Nor stands in the path of sinners, Nor sits in the seat of the scornful…. -Psalm 1:1, NKJV I dubbed them “The Unholy Trinity.” They were a group of people that my (now ex) wife had tapped to decide the fate of our marriage, … Continue reading “Ungodly Counsel”
Author: Divorce Minister
Please Choose Supportive Beliefs!
All sort of lies are spoken about faithful spouses. Cheaters are especially “good” at the discard. They speak distorted things about who we are in order to feel better as if they are discarding us like trash. It helps them to think of us that way. You do not have to believe their lies about … Continue reading “Please Choose Supportive Beliefs!”
“Exit Affair” Minimizing Label
“You shall not commit adultery.” -Exodus 20:14, NKJV Does it make it any less sinful to cheat if the marriage is troubled? The correct answer to this is “No.” Adultery is adultery. Sin is sin. Circumstances around the sin do not matter as far as determining if the behavior is sin or not. I see … Continue reading ““Exit Affair” Minimizing Label”
My Divorce Lawyer, NOT “Faith-Based” Thankfully!
When I got divorced years ago, I had a good divorce lawyer. In fact, she was probably the clearest-eyed professional in the whole thing. It was a flat fee sort of thing. Looking back, I am grateful that somehow I found this lawyer seeing how divorce attorneys can be very expensive. Now, we had a … Continue reading “My Divorce Lawyer, NOT “Faith-Based” Thankfully!”
Philip Yancey Confesses Near Decade Affair
To my great shame, I confess that for eight years I willfully engaged in a sinful affair with a married woman. My conduct defied everything that I believe about marriage. It was also totally inconsistent with my faith and my writings and caused deep pain for her husband and both of our families. -Philip Yancey … Continue reading “Philip Yancey Confesses Near Decade Affair”
Late Blooming Rebellion
A theory I have about some cheaters is that they are simply behaving like adolescents who never felt free to rebel against authoritarian parents. Maybe they were always the “good girl” or “good boy” in the family to keep the peace? Then they grew up and married; however, they never really discovered what they believed as they … Continue reading “Late Blooming Rebellion”
Don’t Take It! Emboldening 80s Rock Anthem!
Twisted Sister – We’re Not Gonna Take It I dub this: “The Anti-Adultery Tolerance Rock Anthem!” This past week I was listening to the music on my smartphone. “We’re Not Gonna Take It” by the Twisted Sisters popped up, and I thought, “What a wonderful song to strengthen the timid!” Therefore, strengthen your feeble arms … Continue reading “Don’t Take It! Emboldening 80s Rock Anthem!”
Divorcing in order to remarry
11 He told them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits adultery.” -Mark 10:11-12, NLT Without doubt, someone who divorces their spouse in order to obtain another is clearly committing adultery in God’s eyes. That is not to say all … Continue reading “Divorcing in order to remarry”
“Talking about that triggers my toxic shame.”
“Talking about that triggers my toxic shame. So, let’s talk about something else,” says Cheater. Anguish over the awful things they did may very well be real. And they need to go through it to heal the matter, NOT avoid it. Honestly, Cheaters talking about toxic shame are often using it as excuse to avoid … Continue reading ““Talking about that triggers my toxic shame.””
Actions Over Words
They say they’re sorry…. …but refuse to cut off contact with their affair partner. I am sorry to tell you that they are NOT truly sorry. Their actions betray the truth. They are sorry that they were caught! They say they want an open and honest relationship… …yet they continue to lie to you and … Continue reading “Actions Over Words”