Eight years ago yesterday, I started my Chaplaincy Residency at a Veterans Affairs Medical Center in my home state. This job was a gift from God. It shouldn’t have been available as late in the year as it was. Plus, it was back “home” for me. God knew I needed this job to weather my … Continue reading “Miracle job”
Crossing over into emotional affair territory
Ever experienced a cheater deeply worried about another’s feelings? They are just trying to be a good “hostess.” What is important is that this “friend” feels comfortable. They want their approval. What is NOT important to this person is how their spouse feels or thinks! This is a tell-tale sign that your spouse is cheating. … Continue reading “Crossing over into emotional affair territory”
Thinking legacy.
And Samuel died; and all the Israelites were gathered together, and lamented him, and buried him in his house at Ramah. -I Samuel 25:1a, KJV When my maternal grandfather died, they shut down his small North Dakotan town to bury him. That’s the sort of impact I hope to have on those around me. I … Continue reading “Thinking legacy.”
Mailbag: How long will it take for me to recover?
Dear DM, Thank you for your blog and the articles in there. I recently stumbled across your blog because 2 weeks ago I discovered my husband having an affair (he has been having an affair for 4 months and only confessed because he got found out. If I had not found out it would have gone … Continue reading “Mailbag: How long will it take for me to recover?”
Liars with God?
Who may stand in his holy place? Only those whose hands and hearts are pure, who do not worship idols and never tell lies. -Psalm 24:3b-4, NLT What struck me this morning as I read this verse out of the New Living Translation was how seriously God takes lying. Lying is named right next to … Continue reading “Liars with God?”
Fall From Grace: Ravi Zacharias and Clergy Sexual Abuse
Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife…. -1 Timothy 3:2a, NIV Growing up, I admired the late Ravi Zacharias as an intellectual hero of the Christian faith. In high school and my undergraduate years, I would regularly listen to his radio broadcasts as he presented a “brainy” Christianity. For someone … Continue reading “Fall From Grace: Ravi Zacharias and Clergy Sexual Abuse”
God protects us!
God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. -Psalm 46:1, KJV I am enjoying the new album put out by Kim Walker-Smith. There’s a song, “Protector,” about God protecting and holding us. It is one my favorites. Enjoy:
Triggering phrase: “Open and honest”
“We need to have open and honest communication,” says Cheater. When I hear the phrase “open and honest,” I am slightly triggered. It sends me back to the conflict with my ex-wife as our marriage ended. The words aren’t bad in and of themselves. Such a goal for communication is admirable. We want to be … Continue reading “Triggering phrase: “Open and honest””
Promises from Isaiah 54
“Fear not; you will no longer live in shame. Don’t be afraid; there is no more disgrace for you.” -Isaiah 54:4a, NLT Can we claim the promises in this chapter even though they are about Israel? Yes. These are words to God’s people. We are God’s people as children of God (see I John 3:1). … Continue reading “Promises from Isaiah 54”
Cheaters not behaving as if married
But the way of the wicked is like deep darkness; they do not know what makes them stumble. -Proverbs 4:19, NIV A common theme of stories with cheaters is how they exploit faithful spouse trust. One of those ways is to take advantage of the faithful spouse’s trust that they would not behave in ways … Continue reading “Cheaters not behaving as if married”