Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues. -Proverbs 17:28 More Christians could learn from that fool from Proverbs 17:28 who held his tongue when it comes to marriages ravaged by adultery. Sadly, the advice (and condemnation) come all too freely for faithful spouses. Here a few … Continue reading “Dumb Stuff “Christians” Say Regarding Cheating Situations”
Achieved the “800 Bench Press Club” Yesterday!
When going through infidelity discovery, the pain is really strong. I am so glad I did not allow that pain to stop me from living into the future. Yesterday, I achieved a feat that would have blown my 20 or even 30 year old self. In training, I bench pressed 805 lbs (365 kgs) in … Continue reading “Achieved the “800 Bench Press Club” Yesterday!”
Fun Hobby Saturday!
Today, I have a rare Saturday off from work. It is the weekend leading up to my birthday. So, I am going up to the Twin Cities to do a heavy session in bench press. It is a mini-birthday treat to me. I am excited to see where my limits are at in bench before … Continue reading “Fun Hobby Saturday!”
Song to strengthen
When recovering from the destruction of infidelity discovery and divorce, getting a solid job to meet financial needs is important. Today, I am simply posting a song to encourage those going into fray of the job hunt today. (Truth be told, I am also posting for myself, too. In a little while, I will be … Continue reading “Song to strengthen”
A good pastor eases fears
“I will place shepherds over them who will tend them, and they will no longer be afraid or terrified, nor will any be missing,” declares the Lord. -Jeremiah 23:4, NIV When going through adultery discovery and divorce, it is hard to know which pastor to trust. Does this one care more for “saving” my marriage or … Continue reading “A good pastor eases fears”
Please, do not give up on God!
Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him. -James 1:12, NIV The temptation to give up on God is great when going through the spiritual abuse that often comes with a divorce from a … Continue reading “Please, do not give up on God!”
Cheater-Speak: “I’m afraid of you.”
“I’m afraid of you,” says Cheater. This is usually a very effective manipulation by a usually female cheater. It is designed to garner instant sympathy from outsiders. You are generally not going to argue with someone who claims to feel unsafe. The problem is how this is a lie. Many of these cheaters will say … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I’m afraid of you.””
PSA: Not you, faithful spouse!
When a cheater cheats, it is important to understand that such behavior has nothing to do with you, faithful spouse. It is about the cheater’s character. These sinful actions are the overflow of wickedness in the cheater’s heart (see Mark 7:21-23). Do not let a pastor or a cheater or a counselor convince you otherwise! … Continue reading “PSA: Not you, faithful spouse!”
The real “pretending”
“I can’t keep pretending about our marriage!” cries Cheater. What I find interesting, now, about such a statement is how twisted it is. The Cheater is so self-deceived to think they are being “honest” by breaking their most sacred vows. If anything is “pretending,” it is the Cheater pretending NOT to be off the market … Continue reading “The real “pretending””
Communication problem? Not how it seems.
The only “communication” issue needing addressing stat is the absolute, verified ending the affair. A cheater can keep a pastor and faithful spouse chasing random rabbit trails for a very long time if they are convinced the marriage issues are anything other than ending the affair. Lot of energy can be lost focusing on secondary … Continue reading “Communication problem? Not how it seems.”