16 But the Lord God warned him, “You may freely eat the fruit of every tree in the garden— 17 except the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. If you eat its fruit, you are sure to die.” -Genesis 2:16-17, NLT Wanting “understanding” is a trap! Obtaining some knowledge is too costly. That is a lesson that can … Continue reading “Wanting “understanding” is a trap!”
Category: Cheating
Not so complicated!
For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires. -Hebrews 4:12, NLT Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Christians over complicate situations when adultery has happened. The commandment is … Continue reading “Not so complicated!”
Scary divorce.
For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. -I Timothy 6:10, KJV A popular Christian curriculum for people going through divorce would regularly try to dissuade people from divorcing by pointing out the financial … Continue reading “Scary divorce.”
Hate YOUR narrative
All who do evil hate the light and refuse to go near it for fear their sins will be exposed. -John 3:20, NLT Cheaters hate YOUR narrative–aka reality. The last thing they want is to lose control of the narrative. They do not want to look bad even though they did some very bad things. … Continue reading “Hate YOUR narrative”
“I just need a break from our marriage.”
“I’m tired of pretending. I just need a break from our marriage,” says Cheater. “So, you want to pretend you aren’t married when you are? That’s not how our marriage vows work,” replies faithful spouse. Cheaters might ask for “a break” as if your marriage is just an extended period of dating. Such statements reinforce … Continue reading ““I just need a break from our marriage.””
Do not go on the ride
To heal, we have to acknowledge the truth. The sad thing is our cheater may never actually do this. They might engage you in an endless battle over getting you to take responsibility for their abuse of you. That argument is one crazy ride. Refuse to take the bait. While helpful, you do not have … Continue reading “Do not go on the ride”
Pro-Tip: Not talking positive is a sign of discard in progress
When a cheater is done with you, they might refuse to talk about what they enjoy about being married to you. This makes it easier on them both to cheat on you and to discard you. After all, the positives would remind them of real losses that come with the ending of the marriage. Such … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Not talking positive is a sign of discard in progress”
Cheater speaking…
“I don’t love you anymore.” “I feel like we are just roommates.” “I need space.” Have you heard any of these “gems” come out of your cheater’s mouth? Maybe they spoke such words before you knew they were cheating on you? That would make sense. As these words are designed to hide their dastardly behavior … Continue reading “Cheater speaking…”
Friends behave like friends.
A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need. -Proverbs 17:17, NLT A friend behaves like a friend. I know this sounds straight forward, but we need to hear it sometimes when tempted to make excuses for some people. Just because someone claims the title “friend” for themselves … Continue reading “Friends behave like friends.”
Hate being lied to
When he lies, it is consistent with his character; for he is a liar and the father of lies. -John 8:44b, NLT I hate being lied to. In other words, I don’t like being manipulated because that is what being lied to is about–namely, manipulation. Someone who lies to you is trying to manipulate you. … Continue reading “Hate being lied to”