For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. -John 3:17, KJV Jesus is the only One who is able to save someone spiritually. How well or poorly we respond to discovering infidelity ought never to be construed as causing the cheater … Continue reading “You are NOT the Savior!”
Category: Emotional Affair
Love is more than a word. Look for fruit.
A good tree produces good fruit, and a bad tree produces bad fruit. …Yes, just as you can identify a tree by its fruit, so you can identify people by their actions. -Matthew 7:17, 20, NLT When talking about love, I would suggest one looks at actions and not just words. Cheaters will say all … Continue reading “Love is more than a word. Look for fruit.”
Cheater-Speak: “I never wanted to hurt you.”
“You got to understand that I never wanted to hurt you.” -Cheater Why would a cheater tell their spouse that they never wanted or intended to hurt them? I think this is all about protecting themselves. The cheater is attempting to protect themselves from the reality of what they did. By attempting to get agreement … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I never wanted to hurt you.””
Religion of resurrection
He is not here: for he is risen, as he said. Come, see the place where the Lord lay. -Matthew 28:6, KJV Today, we celebrate the resurrection of our Lord, Jesus. It is Easter Sunday. Christianity is a religion centered around resurrection. Without the resurrection, we have no hope. This is why this is the … Continue reading “Religion of resurrection”
Goal: Personal growth or blame acceptance (by the faithful party)?
And he said, “That which cometh out of the man, that defileth the man. For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, Thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness: All these evil things come from within, and defile the man.” – Mark 7:20-23, KJV, (emphasis mine) When … Continue reading “Goal: Personal growth or blame acceptance (by the faithful party)?”
Name it! Call it for what it is.
But Jesus said, “Judas, would you betray the Son of Man with a kiss?” -Luke 22:48, NLT As I work to prepare for Easter, I was struck by this exchange. Notice how Jesus calls out the action for what it was. Jesus labels it betrayal and points out the especially awful means of that betrayal–namely, … Continue reading “Name it! Call it for what it is.”
Seemed to start good…
Most of the crowd spread their garments on the road ahead of him, and others cut branches from the trees and spread them on the road. -Matthew 21:8, NLT When we married, we likely had no idea our marriage would end the way it did. It was a happy day. Sure, the saying goes that … Continue reading “Seemed to start good…”
Those things (former) in-laws say…
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. -Ephesians 6:4, NLT Show of–virtual–hands, how many had in-laws who lectured you about your deficiencies as a spouse? If you are looking for the source of blinding … Continue reading “Those things (former) in-laws say…”
Reminder to forgive really for whom?
Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. -Romans 12:15, NKJV What astounds me about some Christians is how they believe they are helping faithful spouses by telling them that they must forgive their cheater. Most of us–faithful spouses–already understand forgiving our cheater is on the docket of things to do in … Continue reading “Reminder to forgive really for whom?”
Competing against a fantasy
May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. -Proverbs 5:18, NIV When I was dating my first wife (the cheater), I remember thinking about this dynamic. A committed relationship was very different than one that was not. The fantasy soon wears off when real life issues start impacting … Continue reading “Competing against a fantasy”