“When the angel of the Lord appeared to Gideon, he said, ‘The Lord is with you, mighty warrior.’” … “Pardon me, my lord,” Gideon replied, “but how can I save Israel? My clan is the weakest in Manasseh, and I am the least in my family.” -Judges 6:12, NIV Professional athletes sometimes play on a one year “prove it” contract or … Continue reading “Mighty Warrior, God believes in you!”
Category: Grief
Opposite Sex Hatred Phase
When the infidelity betrayal is fresh, a temptation exists to write off an entire gender. I think this is very common for faithful spouses. I think it is part of the grief process. We feel vulnerable and betrayed. The trauma of it all makes us want to avoid putting ourselves in a place where … Continue reading “Opposite Sex Hatred Phase”
Broken bone, a broken soul
All his sons and daughters came to comfort him, but he refused to be comforted. “No,” he said, “I will continue to mourn until I join my son in the grave.” So his father wept for him [i.e. Joseph]. – Genesis 37:35, NIV When a broken bone heals, I hear that it is stronger in … Continue reading “Broken bone, a broken soul”
Lessons from WCC and fall of Hybels by Kyle Strobel and Jamin Goggin
In “How Willow Creek exposed our sins,” Kyle Strobel and Jamin Goggin suggest the mess at Willow Creek Church is a symptom of a much bigger problem in American evangelicalism. Strobel diagnoses the problem Willow Creek exposes as: The fundamental ailment of the evangelical church today is toxic power. Toxic power is anchored in prideful … Continue reading “Lessons from WCC and fall of Hybels by Kyle Strobel and Jamin Goggin”
Too Much at Stake to Sail Off!
So until I come, be diligent in devouring the Word of God, be faithful in prayer, and in teaching the believers. -I Timothy 4:13, TPT Too much is at stake to just sail off into my blessed sunset! I wish more faithful spouse pastors had not simply sailed off into their sunset prior to my … Continue reading “Too Much at Stake to Sail Off!”
Number 12 – Another Negative Anniversary
We would have celebrated our twelfth wedding anniversary today… Whatever people say about healing and “moving on,” I am a firm believer a piece of you is forever lost. You never “get over” losing a precious piece of your soul. I am SOOO thankful for Mrs. DM and Munchkin! And… I feel the pain of … Continue reading “Number 12 – Another Negative Anniversary”
“I care for you” but…
The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. -Proverbs 12:18, NIV I care about you BUT not enough… …to end my friendship with the adulterous spouse until she repents. My thoughts: “Sorry, your concern for me sounds skin deep. Scripture is clear that a person who … Continue reading ““I care for you” but…”
A frustration with some Christian mental health providers
“If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive.” -Luke 17:3b, NLT Rebuke, repentance, THEN AND ONLY THEN, forgiveness is to be offered. This is the order Jesus Himself gave us for godly forgiveness. However, this is usually NOT the order presented to faithful spouses or Christians in other traumatic situations. … Continue reading “A frustration with some Christian mental health providers”
Dang old memories…
Grief comes in waves. It ambushes you sometimes from nowhere. I was collecting pictures for an old friend who knew me in my previously married state. In fact, he was the best man at that wedding–i.e. the wedding where I married my cheater. So, it is not surprising the review of those photos brought back … Continue reading “Dang old memories…”
Validation, What a gift!
Whether it is validation through evidence or validation from another human being who sees the real injustice and names it as such, validation is a precious gift. I truly believe such validation is necessary for healing from adultery and abandonment. We need to be seen. Our pain needs to matter to someone, which includes ourselves. … Continue reading “Validation, What a gift!”