In his mercy, God knew I probably would have held onto my first marriage well beyond what was good for me. So, my ex filed on me, and I decided fighting the divorce was not worth it. I was not going to fight against a divorce that a cheater was seeking. That was her choice–yet … Continue reading “Could’ve stayed stuck”
Category: Sin
Did not care (when I should have)
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4, NLT When my (now) ex-wife confessed an emotional affair, I did not take it seriously. Honestly, I did not care. This was a criticial error on my part. … Continue reading “Did not care (when I should have)”
More concerned with how you found out!
Pro-Tip: When the cheater is more concerned about how you found out than the damaged they did to you, then you know they are not remorseful. This is the behavior of someone who is looking for the source of the leaked information. People ask such questions to continue their behavior. They are looking to plug … Continue reading “More concerned with how you found out!”
“You never really know what happens in a marriage.”
“You never really know what happens in a marriage,” says “friend.” If this is how your “friend” responds to your disclosure of infidelity abuse, you need to find a new, true friend. This person does not want to face a difficult truth and is telling you their unwilling to be supportive of you. Again, there … Continue reading ““You never really know what happens in a marriage.””
A lifestyle of lying
19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved. -John 3:19-20, KJV I have a theory about why some cheaters refuse to … Continue reading “A lifestyle of lying”
God did NOT send them an affair partner!
God is never tempted to do wrong, and he never tempts anyone else. -James 1:13b, NLT God did not send the Other Woman (OW) or Other Man (OM) into your spouse’s life. It is sad that this even needs to be stated. However, I am sure plenty of readers here have heard their cheater try … Continue reading “God did NOT send them an affair partner!”
Then the pieces fit.
Relief. The months of stone-cold or downright cruel responses. Warmth disappearing overnight like a Minnesotan May blizzard. It all started to make sense. I wasn’t imagining things. The Other Man. He existed. Had existed for months! This is one of the strangest and most surreal parts of discovering infidelity. The moment of confirmation is not only … Continue reading “Then the pieces fit.”
Curses from Cheaters
As the bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the curse causeless shall not come. -Proverbs 26:2, KJV Cheaters and their apologists say all sort of cruel and awful things about the faithful spouse. I would consider these things curses. They are using their mouth to degrade and attack the faithful party. It … Continue reading “Curses from Cheaters”
Cheating Emotionally
27 “You have heard the commandment that says, ‘You must not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. -Matthew 5:27-28, NLT Cheating emotionally does not give the unfaithful spouse permission to bash their partner with their pastor. Emotional cheating is sin. … Continue reading “Cheating Emotionally”
Comforting words for faithful spouses
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV “Yes, it happened. She cheated on you. And that’s right: you didn’t deserve it. It’s not your fault. Not at all.” You really want to help a faithful spouse? … Continue reading “Comforting words for faithful spouses”