“You shall not commit adultery.” -Exodus 20:14, NIV So, you’re not perfect. Guess what? No one is. Even in happy marriages, spouses are imperfect. They sin against one another. I think this is especially so in youthful marriages as we’re all maturing and trying to figure out life. Just because you are not perfect does … Continue reading “Not perfect. So, perfection is the standard?”
Author: Divorce Minister
Probably already smeared
The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. -Proverbs 12:18, NIV Probably Already Smeared When Cheaters ask you not to say anything to others about their cheating, do not be naïve about them. They probably have already smeared your name with your mutual “friends” and family. What … Continue reading “Probably already smeared”
A reminder of a song
Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God… -I John 3:1, KJV When I find myself stressed, I find I need to be reminded of my place in God’s family. That worry is a symptom of my disconnect from God’s love. One … Continue reading “A reminder of a song”
Nothing to do with our marriage problems?
“He has nothing to do with our marriage problems. You know that!” -Caught Cheater If your cheater is responding with some version of this, your marriage is over. The cheater is refusing to face the fact that adultery is truly a MAJOR marriage problem. You have nothing to work with here. The cheater is firmly … Continue reading “Nothing to do with our marriage problems?”
Money Not Everything!
“For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.” -I Timothy 6:10, NIV Money isn’t everything, but it is hard to live without enough of it. This was one of the most terrifying things about … Continue reading “Money Not Everything!”
Baiting you
Stone is heavy and sand a burden, but a fool’s provocation is heavier than both. -Proverbs 27:3, NIV Baiting You Some Cheaters delight in pushing your buttons. They may especially enjoy doing this during therapy or with your pastor or in court. Nothing would delight them more than to paint you as neurotic or “angry.” … Continue reading “Baiting you”
Triggering Text – Proverbs 18:17
There are two sides to every story. The first one to speak sounds true until you hear the other side and they set the record straight. -Proverbs 18:17, TPT I was minding my own business reading a book about supernatural phenomenon and this verse was quoted. It sent me back immediately and emotionally to my … Continue reading “Triggering Text – Proverbs 18:17”
Silence is not the same thing as forgiveness
“For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed.” – John 3:20, NKJV Silence about infidelity is the same thing as avoiding the light. It says the person does not what his or her wicked deeds exposed. They have not truly embraced repentance and … Continue reading “Silence is not the same thing as forgiveness”
Not able to forgive
“Do I forgive him [boyfriend who introduced her to the world of prostitution]? Not in the traditional sense of the word. He feels guilty, so much so that he cannot accept the share of blame logic apportions to him, and while he cannot accept his own responsibility he cannot ask for forgiveness, and so it … Continue reading “Not able to forgive”
She claims to be a Christian. Do I need to stay married?
Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace. I Corinthians 7:15, NASB When a partner is abusive and leaves or forces a faithful partner to separate, is a divorce an option for the abused partner … Continue reading “She claims to be a Christian. Do I need to stay married?”