Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think…. -Ephesians 3:20a, KJV God is God. This means we are not. This is important to remember when suffering the awful injustices and losses of adultery discovery and divorce. Just because we cannot see a way forward does … Continue reading “The Extravagance of God”
“Saved Marriages”
When pastors or Christian counselors boast of “saved marriages,” I am immediately skeptical. Usually, this means the couple did not divorce. It really says nothing about whether or not repentance took place on the part of the cheater. The spiritual health of the spouses is not really addressed or defined with such numbers. “Saving” a … Continue reading ““Saved Marriages””
Did God “fail” as the leader and head of Israel?
She saw that I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery. -Jeremiah 3:8a, NLT For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church…. -Ephesians 5:23a, KJV When pastors and elders choose to blame marriages ending on men failing as “spiritual heads,” I would like them to … Continue reading “Did God “fail” as the leader and head of Israel?”
Darkness tests our faith in the Light
And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him. -Hebrews 11:6, NIV When our worlds are blown up and we feel like all is darkness, we are faced with a choice: Do I believe the Light … Continue reading “Darkness tests our faith in the Light”
“Associated Losses” and Grieving the Divorce
The obvious loss with the divorce is the end of the marriage. However, we all know this loss is merely the tip of the loss iceberg. If we relied upon our cheater’s income, we loose financial security. We all loose money and material things both to obtain a divorce plus to divide up the marriage … Continue reading ““Associated Losses” and Grieving the Divorce”
“Exit Affair” nonsense
“We both know our marriage was in trouble for years. The affair wasn’t really the issue. It was just an exit affair.” -Cheater I hate how people minimize the damage of adultery by labeling some affairs: “exit affairs.” Does it make it less of a sin in God’s eyes if it was an “exit affair?” … Continue reading ““Exit Affair” nonsense”
Cheaters and their God-sized problem
Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight; so you are right in your verdict and justified when you judge. -Psalm 51:4, NIV You cry out, “Why doesn’t the LORD accept my worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the LORD witnessed the vows you and your wife made … Continue reading “Cheaters and their God-sized problem”
Dear DM, This sucks.
Dear Divorce Minister, Five years later, and I’m still numb or in an fog or angry/depressed. I was pregnant with our third child when my husband met a woman on an online game. The gist of it is that she started out “fun and flirty” and then they proceeded to talk about more deep stuff. … Continue reading “Dear DM, This sucks.”
Is this a physical affair in the biblical sense?
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” -Matthew 5:27-28, NIV “I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -Matthew … Continue reading “Is this a physical affair in the biblical sense?”
“Mailbag” Comment on Joshua Harris Situation
Dear Divorce Minister, I agree, that those in leadership have less privacy than average folks, and that he would have to give a better explanation in order to continue as an active leader in a church. However, (from what I’ve what I’ve gathered in the past hour or so), he left pastoring quite a while … Continue reading ““Mailbag” Comment on Joshua Harris Situation”