“…let her therefore put away her whoredoms out of her sight, and her adulteries from between her breasts….” -Hosea 2:2b, KJV A Faithful Spouse’s Reasonable Expectation: The cheater ends the affair(s)–both physical and emotional varieties–and engages in actions demonstrating self-work on the character flaws that led the cheater to betray their partner. This expectation needs … Continue reading “Most Reasonable of Expectations”
“Sexual Prosperity Gospel” and Divorce
“It is ironic, then, that Christians who denounce the prosperity gospel have in recent years touted its sexier, if subtler, form: the sexual prosperity gospel…. [The Sexual Prosperity Gospel] holds that God will reward premarital chastity with a good Christian spouse, great sex and perpetual marital fulfillment.” -Katelyn Beaty in “Joshua Harris and the sexual … Continue reading ““Sexual Prosperity Gospel” and Divorce”
A good father who gives us good gifts
If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him? -Matthew 7:11, KJV Our God is a Good Father. Today, that was driven home to me in an answer to many prayers relating … Continue reading “A good father who gives us good gifts”
Assigning blame for the divorce, why bother?
“For I, the LORD, love justice. I hate robbery and wrongdoing. I will faithfully reward my people for their suffering and make an everlasting covenant with them.” -Isaiah 61:8, NLT When I was going through my ecclesiastical trial to keep my ministerial credentials, someone I trusted asked me why my former denomination was so fixated … Continue reading “Assigning blame for the divorce, why bother?”
Does the Old Testament say to stone the faithful spouse as well?!
“If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NLT I am not for bringing back the death penalty for adultery. Ok?! The point of quoting this verse is to expose the absurdity of blaming faithful spouses for … Continue reading “Does the Old Testament say to stone the faithful spouse as well?!”
Awful book published by Focus on the Family(TM) on infidelity
How God Used “the Other Woman”: Saving Your Marriage after Infidelity by Tina Konkin I was shocked and saddened by the recent publication of this book (July 9, 2019) by a source that helped me during my ordeal with an unfaithful spouse. The book description is so awful; I have no plans to buy the … Continue reading “Awful book published by Focus on the Family(TM) on infidelity”
Quick Update Re: Joshua Harris of “I KISSED DATING GOODBYE” book fame
Joshua Harris announced his “separation” from his wife recently. I did a post on that here. He has recently followed that announcement with two big pieces of news in another Instagram post: 1. The “separation” announcement was a divorce announcement according to Harris himself. He writes, “My heart is full of gratitude. I wish you … Continue reading “Quick Update Re: Joshua Harris of “I KISSED DATING GOODBYE” book fame”
Mailbag: Is there forgiveness without divorcing again?
Dear Divorce Minister, So I remarried and my circumstances aren’t clear. If I think I’ve sinned in doing so, is there forgiveness without divorcing again? I’m curious your toughts [sic]. -Sean Dear Sean, Since I do not know the circumstances surrounding the question, I am going to have to make some assumptions and give you … Continue reading “Mailbag: Is there forgiveness without divorcing again?”
Never-Divorce Stance Steals Faithful Spouse Agency
She saw that I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery. -Jeremiah 3:8a, NLT The never-divorce stance of some Christians and pastors puts faithful spouses in a very passive position. They just have to take the abuse. Something is fundamentally wrong with one’s theology when accepting (and enabling, even) sin is what is taught. One … Continue reading “Never-Divorce Stance Steals Faithful Spouse Agency”
That feeling…
When a spouse announces divorce, the feeling can be devastating. I know that is how I felt when my ex made the announcement about seeing a divorce attorney. The loss of dreams, security, and future are incredible. It is not surprising such news can put a faithful spouse in shock. Shock is a normal grief … Continue reading “That feeling…”