“I can tell you are still tender, healing.” -“Well-Meaning” Observer What bothers me the most about these sort of statements is how they are usually stated as a way to express compassion for the faithful spouse but really just communicate pity. Who enjoys being the object of pity?! Now, it is true that the infidelity … Continue reading “Keep your pity.”
Category: Trauma of adultery
What went wrong? Not that difficult to answer with adultery involved.
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Christians need not dig very deep to figure out what went wrong in a marriage when adultery occurred. Modern psychology and so called “Christian” counseling might disagree with me. However, I am very adamant that we do not treat adultery as a side issue to a marriage’s … Continue reading “What went wrong? Not that difficult to answer with adultery involved.”
Grief is a funny thing.
His family all tried to comfort him, but he refused to be comforted. “I will go to my grave mourning for my son,” he would say, and then he would weep. -Genesis 37:35, NLT Even years after a divorce, grief can still surprise. That is how grief works. It ambushes. The heart has a way … Continue reading “Grief is a funny thing.”
Christian Leader, do not fall for the “wilting daisy” or “bruised reed” ploy!
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. – I Corinthians 13:11, NIV Let’s get something straight… A crushed “delicate flower” or a “bruised reed” does not have the energy … Continue reading “Christian Leader, do not fall for the “wilting daisy” or “bruised reed” ploy!”
“I don’t want to pick sides here!” says a Christian “friend”
“I don’t want to pick sides in this,” says a Christian “friend.” A person saying this is communicating to the adultery victim that they think something could justify their victimization. Let’s be clear: They ARE picking a side. It is the side of the adulterous spouse. This helps evil flourish. This is not a godly … Continue reading ““I don’t want to pick sides here!” says a Christian “friend””
Burning bridges is sometimes wisdom in action!
I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin, or is greedy, or worships idols, or is abusive, or is a drunkard, or cheats people. Don’t even eat with such people. – I Corinthians 5:11, NLT Some bridges need burning! I am thinking of … Continue reading “Burning bridges is sometimes wisdom in action!”
Profoundly Sad Take On Human Sexuality
-I Corinthians 6:18, NIV A popular Country song is about using another person for sex in a one night stand. The song is “One Night Standards” by Ashley McBryde: I find this song extremely saddening. What an incredibly sad and devaluing take on human sexuality! It is debasing everyone both mentioned in the song and … Continue reading “Profoundly Sad Take On Human Sexuality”
PSA: Committing adultery, pastors, is the real shameful matter here, NOT divorce!
But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. Blows and disgrace are his lot, and his shame will never be wiped away. -Proverbs 6:32-33, NIV The real shame is not faithful spouses divorcing cheaters, pastors. The real shame is Christians committing adultery! Preaching or counseling against divorce is a little late when it comes … Continue reading “PSA: Committing adultery, pastors, is the real shameful matter here, NOT divorce!”
A lie remains a lie even if spoken to a child.
Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices…. -Colossians 3:9, NIV A lie to a child is still a lie. As Christians, we are to be people who speak truth, not lies. This applies to children of divorce following infidelity. A lie is a lie. Now, truth can … Continue reading “A lie remains a lie even if spoken to a child.”
Cheater Apologist: Why did she HAVE TO leave?
“Why did she HAVE TO leave?” – Cheater Apologist This is a loaded question. If you even attempt to answer the question, you will lose. No good way to answer this question exist. It is like the classic loaded question: “When will you stop beating your wife?” Like this question assuming that you are beating … Continue reading “Cheater Apologist: Why did she HAVE TO leave?”