“Look at all the birds—do you think they worry about their existence? They don’t plant or reap or store up food, yet your heavenly Father provides them each with food. Aren’t you much more valuable to your Father than they?” -Matthew 6:26a, TPT Financial worry was a really close companion during the end of … Continue reading “Not to worry”
Category: Cheating
Choosing to choose daily
‘”Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.’” -Matthew 19:6, NLT Today, I was at a conference where the speaker, Steve Backlund, said something about marriage and making decisions. He stated that the marriage vows really say, “I’m going to keep choosing you.” I totally … Continue reading “Choosing to choose daily”
Unwise idea
“Why don’t you both take a break from each other?” -Clueless Counselor This is one of the dumbest pieces of advice given to a couple dealing with infidelity. The problems of an infidelity ravaged marriage are not solved by creating more distance and less accountability for the cheater. Both are the last things needed, actually. A break … Continue reading “Unwise idea”
My take on Other Man
Keep to a path far from her [adulteress], do not go near the door of her house, lest you lose your honor to others and your dignity to one who is cruel, lest strangers feast on your wealth and your toil enrich the house of another. -Proverbs 8-10, NIV How do I feel about the affair … Continue reading “My take on Other Man”
Not even partially your fault.
For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. – 2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT You are NOT responsible for your Cheater’s sins. Period. If you are like me, you will encounter all sort of people … Continue reading “Not even partially your fault.”
Cowardly Abdication of Pastoral Role
So I will rescue my flock, and they will no longer be abused. I will judge between one animal of the flock and another. -Ezekiel 34:22, NLT Cowardly Abdication of Pastoral Role Sadly, it is rare to find a pastor willing to hold a cheater to account for their abusive behavior. Far more common, you … Continue reading “Cowardly Abdication of Pastoral Role”
More hearts
Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and nights. No one said a word to Job, for they saw that his suffering was too great for words. -Job 2:13, NIV Just as the wedding day is a family event, the adultery discovery and divorce are felt by the same family as … Continue reading “More hearts”
YOUR call!
“And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery—unless his wife has been unfaithful.” -Matthew 19:9, NLT Whether you stay or choose divorce is YOUR call! Not mine. Not your pastor’s. Not your therapist’s. YOUR call! I think it is important to take responsibility for our choices and not … Continue reading “YOUR call!”
Sane Voices
Wisdom will save you from evil people, from those whose words are twisted. -Proverbs 2:12, NLT When going through infidelity discovery, faithful spouses need wisdom. We need sane voices as the situation is maddening. I went through my infidelity discovery experience in my late 20s and look back now in my 40s wishing someone with … Continue reading “Sane Voices”
We had “opportunity” too!
24 It will keep you from the immoral woman, from the smooth tongue of a promiscuous woman. 25 Don’t lust for her beauty. Don’t let her coy glances seduce you. -Proverbs 6:24-25, NLT We had opportunity, too! That is the thing about people with character. They do NOT give into temptation. Their vows means something to them. … Continue reading “We had “opportunity” too!”