Some cheaters will come back around and attempt to reconnect with their faithful partner after the divorce. They may want to rehash what happened in the marriage. This is just a recipe for abuse for the faithful partner. Do NOT take the bait! A repentant cheater would put action to their sorry. They wouldn’t try … Continue reading “Wanting to rehash the marriage”
Category: Grief
Grief ambushes. It is what it does.
I am worn out from my groaning. All night long I flood my bed with weeping and drench my couch with tears. -Psalm 6:6, NIV Yesterday, grief surprised me. This wasn’t grief over my first marriage. It was grief over a lost mentor and true friend. He died in a car accident last year. I … Continue reading “Grief ambushes. It is what it does.”
But she said she would never…
She said she would would never cheat on me. No matter how difficult the marriage became, we were (supposedly) committed to each other. Cheating was not on the table. You see this is what makes infidelity so hard to believe. Cheating flies in the face of explicit promises made by the faithful spouse–husband or wife. … Continue reading “But she said she would never…”
A stranger
Yesterday, I was on a social media site. As they do, they post connection suggestions. One of those was a picture of my ex and her new husband. In that moment, I realized that she is just a stranger to me at this point. All connection has been severed and cauterized. Thankfully. Now in my … Continue reading “A stranger”
No outrunning or truly winning!
“Don’t be misled: No one makes a fool of God. What a person plants, he will harvest. The person who plants selfishness, ignoring the needs of others—ignoring God!—harvests a crop of weeds. All he’ll have to show for his life is weeds!” -Galatians 6:7-8a, MSG Cheater seems happy and prosperous while I struggle to make … Continue reading “No outrunning or truly winning!”
Happy Father’s Day, Brothers!
“But for us, There is one God, the Father, by whom all things were created, and for whom we live.” -I Corinthians 8:6a, NLT Happy Father’s Day, brothers! I know this holiday is fraught. However, I hope you find ways to enjoy your special day. You, faithful spouse, are an amazing parent having navigated these … Continue reading “Happy Father’s Day, Brothers!”
3 Things Pastors and Church Leaders Need To Know About Adultery
-3 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT ADULTERY- 1. ADULTERY IS SOUL RAPE! The Bible is clear about the principle about how a married couple is no longer two individuals in a spiritual sense but are actually one (see Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:6, I Corinthians 6:15-18, etc). Following from this oneness principle of marriage, any … Continue reading “3 Things Pastors and Church Leaders Need To Know About Adultery”
Hurts to see the good
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. -Genesis 1:27, KJV Divorcing a cheater would not hurt as much if she was truly pure evil. That is my opinion. I am not saying what she did was anything less than evil. … Continue reading “Hurts to see the good”
Bitterness or anger over injustice?
God is a just judge, And God is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, NKJV Christians are quick to judge faithful spouses as “bitter” without pausing to consider another–more likely–origin of such strong anger: Injustice. To be angry at injustice is a good and godly response to have. It is not “bitterness” but … Continue reading “Bitterness or anger over injustice?”
Preferring to be wrong
Discovering you spouse has been committing adultery is an incredibly traumatic experience. -You want to be wrong–even crazy is preferable to the real traumatic mess this actually is! -You want your world NOT to be upended and obliterated like it is. -In short, you want to wake up from this nightmare. This is grief and … Continue reading “Preferring to be wrong”