Smug, married Christians act intolerably towards faithful spouses hemorrhaging from soul rape. These are “know it all” Christians who think all that proceeds from their mouths is gold. They are the “wise” ones in their eyes. The reality is what proceeds from their mouths would be better used to fertilize the fields. These smug people … Continue reading “Sickening Smugness Among “Christians””
Category: Theology of divorce
Is there an “innocent party” in a divorce?
Is there such thing as an “innocent party” in a divorce? Yes. I struggled with this question when fighting to retain my minister’s license years ago. Psycho-babble is winning when we cannot identify or distinguish between the innocent party and the perpetrator. Now, I understand those who say we all contribute to our marriage relationship. … Continue reading “Is there an “innocent party” in a divorce?”
Why DM keeps blogging
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. -2 Corinthians 1:3-4, NIV Cheating combined with spiritual abuse is a … Continue reading “Why DM keeps blogging”
Does God really think that? No. God does NOT.
I am convinced God does NOT think… …you are responsible for your ex-spouse cheating on you and discarding you. God is just. God holds the actor responsible for the actions he or she did, not their victim (see 2 Corinthians 5:10). No matter what your cheater or even a pastor might say, God does not … Continue reading “Does God really think that? No. God does NOT.”
Best days ahead!
The Lord blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. -Job 42:12a, NIV A lie the Enemy wants you to believe is that your life is over following adultery discovery and divorce. He wants you fearful that all that is left for you is awful following a divorce from a cheater. Some “Christians” … Continue reading “Best days ahead!”
Unhelpful point: God never intended marriage to end in divorce.
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a … Continue reading “Unhelpful point: God never intended marriage to end in divorce.”
Possible? Maybe. Likely? No.
As a dog returns to its vomit, so fools repeat their folly. -Proverbs 26:11, NIV Within the Christian community, so much pressure is placed upon faithful spouses to “reconcile” with their cheating partners. Sometimes lip service is given to the importance that the cheater has actually changed and will not cheat again. However, the general … Continue reading “Possible? Maybe. Likely? No.”
Purity Culture Standards: “Used Gum” Problematic Metaphor
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4, NLT Have you ever heard the metaphor or analogy that having sex outside of marriage is like chewing gum then offering that used gum to your (future) spouse? … Continue reading “Purity Culture Standards: “Used Gum” Problematic Metaphor”
Cling to the truth.
“Everyone on the side of truth listens to me.” -John 18:37b, NIV Truth: You did not drive your spouse to cheat (and abandon you). Truth: You do not deserve to be abused, and cheating is abuse. Truth: Divorcing a cheater is not sin. Truth: Divorcing an unrepentant cheater is not dooming your kids, rather you … Continue reading “Cling to the truth.”
2 questions behind the questions
Two Questions Behind the Questions: 1. “Did you deserve the abandonment or being cheated on?” 2. “Did you learn your “lesson(s)” from being cheated on/divorced?” What a messed up world we live in where Christians are given a free pass to probe a soul rape victim with questions about what he or she has learned … Continue reading “2 questions behind the questions”