Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are … Continue reading “Adultery caused the marriage rift; NOT its confession!”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Remember God has you through this!
Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe. -Proverbs 29:25, NIV People will likely talk. Sure. Even–maybe especially–“Christian” people with issues with you getting a divorce from your cheater. However… Do not allow the “fear of man” to paralyze you. That fear is what will get you snared in … Continue reading “Remember God has you through this!”
Cheater claims “toxic marriage”
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Did I miss something? When I read this verse–part of the Ten Commandments–I don’t see where it says, “Thou shalt not commit adultery unless [you believe] your marriage is a toxic relationship.” I don’t see it because it is NOT there! This is an especially lame cheater excuse or … Continue reading “Cheater claims “toxic marriage””
Words from a proven liar
The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy. -Proverbs 12:22, NIV A spouse cannot commit adultery without being a liar. They vowed to “forsake all others,” and they broke that vow. They lied. This is an important truth to keep in mind when dealing with a cheater. It is vital … Continue reading “Words from a proven liar”
Spiritual Sickness and Forgiveness
“If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them.” -Luke 17:3b, NIV If you are stabbing your mate in the soul by committing adultery and twisting the “knife” by lying about it, you are not spiritually healthy. You are spiritually sick. Forgiveness from a faithful spouse does not necessarily … Continue reading “Spiritual Sickness and Forgiveness”
Beware of those seeking your “sin” confession
When going through a divorce from a cheater, I would caution against trusting someone overly fixated on hearing your “confession.” Confessing one’s sins is a highly vulnerable thing to do. Not everyone deserves to have such access to your heart. Some “Christians” are not ashamed to weaponize that information against you. Be wise. The person … Continue reading “Beware of those seeking your “sin” confession”
Not “understandable” but rather UNACCEPTABLE!!!
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV So much energy is often spent trying to “understand” why a cheater cheated. Such energy–especially in churches–is better spent teaching what the Bible teaches–namely, adultery is ALWAYS unacceptable. Circumstances matter not. Adultery is ALWAYS sin. I wonder how many marriages would have been saved this trauma (and … Continue reading “Not “understandable” but rather UNACCEPTABLE!!!”
When a “lack” of sex or emotional attention is cited as the infidelity cause…
“For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come—sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and defile a person.” -Mark 7:21-23, NIV When a lack of sex (or attention) is treated as the cause… Infidelity is not … Continue reading “When a “lack” of sex or emotional attention is cited as the infidelity cause…”
Not governed by fear
And my faith in him convinces me that he is more than able to keep all that I’ve placed in his hands safe and secure until the fullness of his appearing. -2 Timothy 1:12b, TPT When I was reading this chapter, this second half of verse twelve grabbed my attention. I doubt I am the … Continue reading “Not governed by fear”
Simply stopping is not enough!
When a cheater stops the affair, this is not enough. They need to take further action. It is like an alcoholic who stops drinking. This is good. However, the alcoholic who is not actively dealing with their issues connected to drinking is not in recovery. A cheater who does not deal with the lies he … Continue reading “Simply stopping is not enough!”