Category: Trauma of adultery

Will you allow Satan drive you away or will you run towards God?

His wife said, “Still holding on to your precious integrity, are you? Curse God and be done with it!” -Job 2:9, MSG When the calamity of infidelity discovery strikes, we have two option: 1) Allow the sins of “man” drive us away from God with a curse. Or 2) Run to God as our only … Continue reading “Will you allow Satan drive you away or will you run towards God?”

Public Service Announcement: Cheating is abuse!!!

Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! – I Corinthians 6:15b, NLT When someone is a cheater, they are also an abuser. You cannot have one without the other. Soul rape is abusive. I am astounded by how cheating and adultery are too often treated … Continue reading “Public Service Announcement: Cheating is abuse!!!”

DM, Am I going to be broken and defined by this forever?

Hi DM, A follow-up question for you. As a reference – I’m going through a divorce after my spouse entered into another affair (sex addict). During a support group, another person who had also experienced infidelity  (who is still with their cheater) said, “This is going to scar you for the rest of your life. … Continue reading “DM, Am I going to be broken and defined by this forever?”

Image protection over real repentance

Cheaters are often more worried about what people think about them than what they actually did. This is the reason that they are so upset when faithful spouses dare tell others about their adultery. Such revelations make them look bad. It is hard to spin committing adultery in a positive light–especially in a Christian community. (Albeit, some … Continue reading “Image protection over real repentance”

Cheater demanding you be “open and honest”

“Why can’t you just be open and honest with me?! I am being completely open and honest with you,” says a lying cheater in couples therapy. Openness and honesty is a noble attribute of healthy relationships. That is what makes this cheater plea so dangerous. It looks good to an outsider. In fact, it might … Continue reading “Cheater demanding you be “open and honest””

Most basic moral code failure

Jesus replied. “There is only One who is good. If you want to enter life, keep the commandments.” “Which ones?” he inquired. Jesus replied, “‘You shall not murder, you shall not commit adultery, you shall not steal, you shall not give false testimony…” -Matthew 19:17b-18, NIV Keeping the Ten Commandments are required for entering (eternal) life per … Continue reading “Most basic moral code failure”

Committing adultery is evidence of flunking Christianity 101.

The commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not covet,” and whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no harm to a neighbor. -Romans 13:9-10a, NIV Cheaters have been known to profess their commitment to Christianity … Continue reading “Committing adultery is evidence of flunking Christianity 101.”

A confessing Christian cheater may not be a Christian

“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.” -Matthew 7:21, NIV Confessing “Christian” Cheaters One of the most confusing part of dealing with adultery and general infidelity discoveries is how they do not fit with the … Continue reading “A confessing Christian cheater may not be a Christian”